When do I get my life back?????

Hello all,
Well here i am at midnight and cant sleep.I have had so much going on i dont know if it is nerves.I am 16 days post-op and really feeling the emotional effects from this surgery.I feel like my whole life is falling apart.I am not one to have someone take care of me and have always done things on my own.The first 2 weeks of my recovery went by fairly easy and not much to complain about but within the last 4 days everything has hit me at once.I now have an absess on my vaginal cuff and am on meds for it.I started running a fever today(low grade)and called my doctor.She said if it gets any higher i am back in the castle for awhile.My house is falling apart.My dh works long hours and has to take care of the kids when he gets home.I feel like we are losing touch through all of this and it has been very stressful on him as well.My oldest son has adhd and has been getting away with everything since this happened.I feel like i am losing control of him again as well.I dont know what to do anymore.iIjust want my life back and to be normal again.Does this ever happen?I know i am still very early in my recovery but things were going so well.I dont know what went wrong.I was supposed to start my hormones on sunday but with all the meds we have had to get we didnt have the money to get them.Now we are going to be late on rent.Where has my life went.All i do is sit around depressed i cant do anything about it.I have no one to talk to except all you ladies here at midnight.I pray someone helps me soon.I really just want my life back.

Oh, Christie,

You are having a very rough go right now...I'm sending you some gentle, healing s

I understand a great deal about what you're talking about. My DH also works long hours, and had to take care of the 3 kids at night. Yes, it's stressful, but you'd do it all in a heartbeat for your DH if the situation was reversed, right?

You must resolve right here and now not to stress out too much about those things you cannot control, such as the house, etc. Your proper recovery is NUMBER ONE. Without your health, nothing else will matter, as you will not be able to be there for your precious family and friends down the road.

I'm really sorry that you are having complications at a time in recovery that can be rough without complications. You are more fragile now, as your internal stitches are dissolving, leaving weakened tissues to take over. You may be feeling lots more sensations of healing at this point.

Please accept ANY and ALL offers of help. Call friends that haven't offered to do things for you...they may not know your needs. You WILL get your life back, but you must accept that it will take some time. I didn't have complications as bad as yours, and I didn't feel like myself until 3-4 months post-op. Your body has been through a lot, Christie. Try to think in terms of being good to yourself, even though that goes against the guilt you are feeling.

Yes, your oldest son is having free reign for awhile, but when you're stronger and more in control again, that will change, you'll see. Some things have just got to slide for awhile for the sake of your long-term health. Yes, the care and rest you get now will determine how well you'll do months down the line.

I'm sending yet more hugs, and please remember, you only have ONE chance to heal properly from this surgery, and this is it!

My very best to you...

Linda

Hi Christie,

In the time it took me to read your post and click reply Linda had already replied with basically everything I wanted to say! So I can't offer any help other than what she's said already.... EXCEPT some more huge cyber s. You will get your life back at some point- but for now just try not to worry (I know that's hard- I'm a worrywart too and I also have an ADHD 7yr old that is getting a little out of hand too... hubby works long hours here also *pout*) and concentrate only on your recovery- get lots of , take any help offered or ASK for help from anyone you can, and lots!

It will get better sweetie. We're pretty close on our surgery dates but I'm not sure what type of hyst you had. We'll go through this together. Please call your doctor if you feel that your temp gets too high and I am praying for you relief on the monetary problems so you don't have those worries also... especially the meds you need!

HUGE s

GOSH, I cannot get this post to go through if my life depended on it! Let's try ONCE AGAIN!

UGH! Double post again! What is going on here? Seems like every night I try and try to post (and I have other browsers on other sites that the pages/reply pages/etc all load up just fine at the same time- so I know it's not my ISP having problems) and can't for long periods of time- then when I can, it double posts!

ps. that was a double post that I edited- yet it doesn't say I edited it... ???? Is the site going weird on me late at night or what? LOL

{{{{Christine}}}} Take it one step at a time. Deal with priorities first. Healing is # 1. Call your primary care physician and see if he/she can give you sample of your prescribed HRT - this should last you until you can afford some. I was running low once and my primary care physician gave me sample (lasted three months) until I could get my new prescription from gyn.

Each week you'll find yourself stronger...when that happens you'll be able to take on more challenging issues. Until you feel strong enough...just do the best you can. Recovery is a burden on everyone...no doubt about that...and that alone could be effecting your sons behavior since his routine has been changed too. It'll all work out!!!!! Deal with YOU first..and the rest will fall into place.