Close to cancelling procedure

Now that soo many people have offered thier advice I am really close to cancelling the procedure... When I went in Wednesday for all the prep work and talked to the doctor he reminded me this is not the first time we had one set up and that was 5 years ago that we decided to do one. He advised me against cancelling (because if you knew me like he does I'm extremely anxiuos and a major worrier) because if I don't do it now I never will. I'll have the baby up and moving and then I'll say soon and five years later now this is the soon. I don't want to be on pain meds with my last baby like I was with my health issues. I really dislike not being able to plan trips because you never know when it will hit and wipe you out. As the doc reminded me Wednesday I will be fine. So I can't lift or raise my arms I can lift my little man about the 2nd week to pass him from side to side to nurse. As for Thanksgiving, I have never put the bird in or out. My DH is awesome when it comes to that stuff. Also Christmas because our family is so large we have become all year shoppers for Christmas. I really appreciate everyones comments. I read them and think about everything that is written, you gals are answering alot of my questions and giving me great insight. However I'm a wreck with worry, but I worry thats my downside. I've had at least 8 laproscopies and I know this is going to be hard, from what I had heard its more emotional than physical, but it had to be hard I am having things removed lots of things. That is why I have waited so long but I'm more concerned with the quality of life for me and my family then my house being dirty and chores not getting done. I also know that my two oldest are angels and will help me in any way they can. I feel very bad I have robbed them of their summer and the past summers because I am not well and that means we can't even go to the zoo. The all deserve me, and a me that can be fun again. Does this all make sense to anyone but me?? Have I finally lost my mind? As you can guess I woke up this week with the great pain and feeling like I will vomit any second. Really helped put this in perspective for me. Thanks for caring.

Completely Anxiuos,
Beanie

I always think that things happen for a reason - you cancelled 5 years ago and went on to have more children, so it was meant to be!

But there does come a time when enough is enough and I think you are right to go ahead with the surgery. Please try not to worry too much about it, you will get through it and give your children (& you) a better life at the end of it.

Be brave Beanie!

Hugs

Katy

Dearest Beanie,

I am your biggest supporter...and send you a big hug!

I really like what the lady said that, "things happen for a reason"....if you had the surgery 5 years ago, you would not have that beautiful baby in your arms....but now it sounds like "You are READY".

That is a really GOOD THING!!! ~ ONLY you know your body
(we are only here on this website for support and to offer our experiences - and LOVE to you :-)

I agree with you 100%...ONLY you "KNOW" when it is time to do this and when you are ready (and when it starts to affect to the quality of life for you and those in your family - the kids and not being able to go to the zoo).


FIRST, let me apologize to you, if in ANY way my email posts caused you more anxiety or worry.

I was not even able to physically post on this website until 2 WEEKS AFTER my surgery (I only found the website 2 nights before the surgery...and only ordered the small pillow and the "Swelly Belly Chill Pad" - think I only looked at 1 "THREAD" posting).

So I went into this surgery BLIND...I ONLY had friends with C-Sections to rely on for what to expect afterwards.

I had NOBODY (not the Doctor, not girlfriends, not family) to tell me what to expect after the surgey....I could ONLY face the surgery myself - beyond that - who cared?
I just wanted to wake-up from the surgery and see my husband's face and get good news from the Doctor.
(did not care much beyond that)

That being said:
I was a "Total Nut Case" before the surgery...and put it off 3 times (big fear and worry wart).
Then I became like how you feel, and knew I just had to do this and not suffer from the "EXCRUCIATING Period Pain" and missing out on life because of it....the last few months I was a puker too.
(So, I just stopped fighting it...and Prayed alot).

You are Blessed to have a good DH....by them knowing what to expect and your limitations is good.
(they need to be prepared....mine did not even realize that I did not get my period anymore until after the surgery, when I told him to toss out the pads:-) LOL

I have NOT been Blessed with any children, so after coming home from the hospital and hearing you have them, guess that became my biggest concern for you and eveybody else's here on the website.

Because, my DH went back to work right away and I was home alone (with no family nearby)....I learned that I had limited energy and BIG physical limits - so I think that is what everybody here is worrying about (and trying to convey to you).

CAN I SAY THIS WITH MUCH RESPECT TO YOU?
The hysterectomy surgery is WAY MORE PHYSICAL, than it is emotional.

I think this is the MAIN reason for everybody's concerns......any Sisters out there please correct me :-)

I am so consumed with coping with sleeping and sitting and standing....I personally have had no time for my emotions.

BACK TO YOU~
It sounds like you have the Holidays covered...awesome!

Just go do it and get it over with....:-) The happiest point was that "this is behind me" (I also kept hearing that from my roomates in the hospital).

REALISTICALLY:
I cleaned the house like a maniac, because I KNEW I would not be able to do things for a long time....and it was a way of getting out my stress and dealing with "my worries"

DO SHOP and STOCK-UP on food and things....I like what the website said before Ii wnet into surgery, "Prepare your recovery space"

~ We put an extra folding table near the night-stand
~ Buy a body pillow
~ Get a "Tummy Pillow" (for ride home and the kids - and when you sneeze!!!) that hurts the worst!
~ Buy a "Gopher" at Target, so you can pick-up things on the floor

YOU HAVE NOT LOST YOUR MIND!

I was so afraid of the surgery and the anthesthia.

ASK YOUR DOCTOR FOR THE "Epidoral"
~ get some "Gas-X"
~ stay away from dairy
~ take "Colace" daily, so you can poop without straining.

What can I say to you about "worrying?".....
You wil get through this...and know that you have many people here to talk to when you feel bad or need support or have questions.

EVERYBODY is PULLING for you BEANIE! xoxo

Love & Peace,
URF
TAH 9.18 - UTERUS 5x, Large Fibriods, Adnoymosis - kept Ovaries
(44 years)
no children

I was in the hospital 2 nights 3 days...Monday to Wednesday...you will need help when you come home with lifting and just generally getting around, no driving for a minimum of 2 weeks some Dr's say longer. Please read the recovery posts and you will understand better what you are in store for..Good Luck to You

Hello Beanie.

I really think you are going to need some kind of help. Who will take your children to school? Is it possible you can get another mom in your neighborhood to take and bring your kids home from school? Possibly put your baby and 3 year old in a day care or hire someone to come in the home?
I have an 11 year old. My mom came to stay with me. She has been taking my daughter to school, helping with homework, cooking, doing laundry...what a Godsend! My husband also can not take time off work.

Now about the hospital stay, you just never know. I had a few complications. One day I was low on oxygen, one day I ran a fever. My bladder also went into some kind of shock so I had a catheder in me for 2 days. I spent 4 1/2 days in the hospital. I hope you can find a way to work this out for yourself with no worries. You will need your rest and strength. Good luck!

Beanie please don't cancel your procedure. There is never a good time for a TAH. But in the long run you will feel better than you do presently. Yes, the pre-op anxiety can feel like it will eat you alive with all the planning and what ifs, but you know what you've been going through for the past several years. Please take care of your health and get the procedure done. Things will work out! Give yourself grace and patience, and ask the others in your family to as well. There will be times post op when you get frustrated, and from everything I've read on these forums... that's a normal reaction, so don't let it get you down.