Difficult time with having this surgery

I am 33 years old with no children. I have a double uterus and never had a regular period. My period comes when it wants to and I never know how long I will bleed. It can last for up to two weeks.

Many doctors have told me I cannot have kids and told me the TAH is my best option. I am having a very difficlut time with having to have this surgery. This means I will never have any kids of my own.

The bright side is no more periods and I can have my life back. I ask for any opinions and comments to help me thru this bump in life.

You know life is kind of funny. It seems what we plan never really seems to go the way we want. Yet at that right time things seem to fall the way they should be. I cannot tell you to have the surgery. I can say that you should make the decision that is best for you. I had my surgery a year ago. I am now feeling better than I had in years. Good luck on your decision. And there are many ways to be a parent.

Mickey -

I am 46 and do not have kids either. I have had polyps removed to stop a clotting hemmoraging (new pad evey hour + tampon sometimes was not enough) 7 day period (it worked!!!) but now have a '5 month' pregnancy-sized uterus due to fibroids.

While your sisters here all have different experiences, I think those of us who never or will never have kids may be a little different. I am refconfiled (though that is not to say I do not mourn) the fact that I will never give birth, but you need to do what you need to do to make yourself healthy..

Heck, nowadays a young whippersnapper like you maybe can have a surrogate carry your own embryo if your ovaries are ok....just because you can't have kids does not mean you cannot be a mother.

I can tell you this: I have a good life, even without kids - really. I know that some of my friends are envious of how I can do what makes me happy whenever I want. If course, there are tradeoffs. My pets are my kids and my sisters 3 kids are spoiled rotten by me.

It IS true that if you don't have your health, you have NOTHING! Go and make yourself healthy. The rest will follow.

I am scheduled for TAH in Jan but unless there is a reason, we are going to do a SAH - thanks to my info gleaned from this site. I think I will get up the guts to do this even though pressure and incontinence are my biggest problems - I do not have clotting periods. We need to make our own decisions, but I really do not want to pee in the middle of a meeting at work.

Just my 2 cents, but take some time to work your head around it and make your best decision. Best of luck!!
KC

Getting my life back was my first priority. That said, I tried to have kids for a long time. I too am mourning my loss of fertility. I wanted kids so much for so long that it was doing more emotional harm than good. Now that it is done, I don't have that decision to make any more. All done and I can do what I want and need to do on my own terms. I'm not saying that it is easy, but the decision has been make already and I don't have to focus on that anymore. In a way, I have been released. You are younger than me, and that might make things more complicated, but in effect, I spent 20 years thinking about, yelling about and crying about trying to get pregnant when it was never going to happen. Now it is one thing that I don't have do anymore. I am grieving the loss in my own time, and spoil the kids around me including my cats, all 3 of them babies to me.

This is the hardest decision that I have had to make about my body.

Living in pain was no longer an option for me.

You need to come to terms with yourself and find the strength in you to decide what you need to do for you.

Research and gut feelings will help sort out all the options for you. Take the time you need. There is no going back afterwards.

All my best.

Thank You very much for your advice. I know in the long run I am making the best decision.

I will keep you in my prayers.