It's been 3 years since my Total Hysterectomy. Surgery was a cinch as was recovery. It helps to have good core muscles, Pilates was extremely helpful before & after. I am soooo sorry that my ovaries were removed. They were HEALTHY. Went to several doctors & they all recommended to remove them, I think it's more for convenience sake, who wants to go through another operation down the road. I think our docs are scared of malpractice. If you have a choice DON"T REMOVE THE OVARIES!!! My sex life was wonderful B 4 the procedure. I was still in my honeymoon stages. I was married only 2 years. My husband is a doll & very understanding BUT it can't be fun for him. I have desire but am not able to climax. Use to have deep uterine orgasms. Always. Never a problem. Had one orgasm in 3 years!!!!since the surgery. I am not taking HRT 's. There are too many conflicting reports on their safety. I don't know if I'm being too paranoid about (HRT) or not.
Sorry about your situation. However can I ask are you taking any medications? I seem to have lost the desire (long story 3 surgeries), however I spoke with my GP last week and she said one of my medications, an antidepressant takes away the ability to have an orgasm, but not the desire.
Please don't give up and let us know how things go.
Sorry you are having these problems. I too had my ovaries removed but I chose to take the HRT for many reasons including desire for the sexuality it provides. I too was concerned about the bad press HRT gets, after looking closely at the studies, reading lots of articles and talking to my doc, I'm happy with the decision. If my hormones need to be adjusted or I forget to stay on top of it one of my first symptoms is loss of some sexual function. I'm convinced that the HRT is critical to my sexual function. I'd be writing the same post as you without my HRT. I know there are women that don't seem to require it but I know I do.
If sexual function is important to you, talk to your doc. A good one can probably do you some good. Check out all the good info on this site too.