Don't you WISH -

That a man has to go through half of what we do?

I say this because my dh is the type that if he doesn't see you bleeding to death, throwing up, pooping your pants, turning green, passing out, or if he took the time to feel for a pulse he doesn't understand you are in pain hurting bothered upset short tempered and any other emotion/feeling because of things you feel with your female organs.

Even though I am having my full hysto on Wend he still hasn't gotten the point that I am in pain. I guess he is reminded when he has to PAY for another medication at the pharmacy or when I tell him NO a hundred times to sex.

I just needed to vent a little here! I was telling dh just this am, when I heal up I was thinking of going back to work at a hospital (maybe nurse tech) but at night either pt or ft. He looked over at me really crappy and said, "what you cannot even stay nice during the day on the sleep you get now" I was so upset and told him, "it isn't the amount of sleep I am getting or not getting that makes me so unhappy and tired, it is the pain I am always IN YOU ******" Then I went into our room, locked the door and cried myself to sleep until 12:30 today. This took place at 10:00am this morning.

We don't "need" the money for me to go back to work but I want to do it for extra money and to get me out. I will still do it if I so choose do. I am sure when we do have extra money for say dinners out, movies and other fun things we only do here and there, dh wont be saying anything about my lack of sleep then!

Sorry to make this so long, just needed to rid my body of it.

It took an assault I went through fro my DH to sit up and take notice and quit beig a jerk!
Sometimes men just don't grow up! Whatever his atitude is, You are powerless over it, and it is HIS problem....not yours. All you can do is make choices that make you feel good and true to your self! Keep your dignity. It is the one tyhing in life that is ours alone.
Verbal abuse is worse than physical in my opinion. I have been through both and recovered from the physical, albiet difficult and long...some effects I still struggle with. But the verbal is in my head and just won't leave! Counseling has helped immensly in that area for me.
But you Friend have a heck of a time when hyster is upon you!Remember to stay strong for you , not him!
And remember to try to not respond in anger or like it bothers you. {I know easier said than done}, but once they know they have some sort of control over you, it will continue.
Love and hugs. Am lighting your candle early...SOunds like you need a little light & warmth right now.
Love and hugs
Peanut

Personally I would have him go to the site :

http://www.pelvicfloor.com

Let him see the photos of a hysterectomy...............

He may need a visual............... or a baseball bat over his head!

Some men just don't get it.

I went to that site and boy does it have a lot of pictures! I still want to see my own. But I did look around at the message board there.

Lilbit:

I'm with you....if seeing the pictures on that site don't wake up Coley's dh (and I use the "d" very, very sarcastically!!!)....nothing will!!!

Coley, I've read many of your posts and I'm sorry that your husband has to act like such an *** during a very stressful and emotional time. I'm glad that you get comfort from these wonderful ladies with with their thoughful wisdom and sharing of their own experiences...I too have learned ALOT from them!

Good luck....and take care!