TAH: Horrified of dryness and dysfunction

Does anyone know which part of our reproductive system produces our natural lubrication when stimulated? My dr says my cervix will have to be removed and my ovaries will stay unless "They look bad when she gets in there" She also says "O" has nothing to do with my cervix or uterus but I disagree. If I currently experience Uterine orgasms when my gspot is stimulated, what will happen once my cervix and uterus is gone? Clitoral "O"s only? And the thought of relying on lubricants is horrible. What about the g spot? Where is it located? Is it going to go with my cervix? I'm so full of anxiety it's insane!!

Hi there and welcome.
Firstly and most importantly-
I would urge you to ensure the doctor leaves your ovaries if possible as if they are removed there is a possibility you may have libido problems down the line.
It is still possible to have intense orgasms without the uterus and cervix. I believe all orgasms actually emanate from the clitoris although of course they extend to the uterus which makes them feel as though that is where they start. If your pelvic muscles are in good shape then you may be surprised at how intense orgasms can still be. I sometimes feel as though I still have uterine contractions and I don't have a uterus any more!
The G spot is located on the front wall of the vagina and has nothing to do with the cervix. If you had ever had stimulation of it then you would be aware of this already so don't worry about it- it will still be there!
You will only have to rely on lubricants if you go through a surgical menopause-ie if your ovaries are removed, or if you are going through a natural menopause anyway as all women do at some point. It is not so bad you know!
There is a lot of acceptance which comes with having a hysterectomy because of course things will never be quite the same again. However many women (I believe) feel better afterwards especially if they have been suffering with painful conditions.

Good luck with the surgery

uk lady

By the way I didn't answer the first part of your question about where natural lubrication comes from. It is of course from the vagina.

uk lady

sa691 -

Each and every woman is different in her healing and journey through hysterectomy. Yes, there are similarities and why we can talk to one another about our experiences and offer advice.

If you haven't already sought a 2nd or 3rd opinion you may want to do that. Also make sure if you have concerns that you consider the less irreversible options first. I know you stopped a UAE before but you may want to revisit that procedure. You can always step up to a hysterectomy but you can't step back from it and you have to be absolutely sure that this and it's consequences are something you are ready for if you are having this for non-life threatening conditions. There are members who didn't have a choice because of cancer but in all other situations this is considered elective and you have to be comfortable with it.

Speaking from experience there can be sexual dysfunction after the surgery and it can be difficult to find a doctor who will help you with it. If you are concerned talk to your doctor now and say "what will be your recommendations and course of treatment if this happens to me".

In my personal experience and from reading here the following are some things that can influence the possibility of dysfunction....

Did you have pain prior to the surgery that interfered with sex? Many members find that the hysterectomy removed those issues and now sex is better (remember I said many, not all).
Did you keep your ovaries? If you don't keep your ovaries you will experience surgical menopause and that can be rough.
Did you already go through menopause? If so you may have already experienced some of the libido and lubrication slow down but even at that the ovaries produce some hormones so if they are removed things may change.
If you kept your ovaries did they go to sleep? The blood flow to the ovaries is interrupted in surgery and it may take awhile for them to wake up and in some cases they don't wake up, so you are back to menopause.
Trying to go back to normal activities to soon? When you resume intercourse go slowly and not as vigorusly as before until you know you are healed. It takes months to fully recover. If you go in tense you can trigger musles that cause sex to be painful, this can cause it's own set of issues.
Expect things to be different after the surgery. If they are you aren't negatively surprise and if they aren't you are happy and relieved.

You have to be ready for the outcomes because as UK Lady said there is adjustments with having a hysterectomy.



G.

I have my cervix removed & I have not had any trouble with dryness at all. So I know some of it comes from the vagina. I did have KY jelly on hand but never needed it. My O is the same as it was before (after you heal all the way).

That was one of my concerns after deciding on the surgery, as I was having uterus and ovaries taken out. My DH and I decided we would work through whatever the result was in that department. After 20 years of marriage it was like 'rediscovering' again. We took it one step at a time, and kept KY on hand just in case. I am now at 12 weeks post op and enjoying things now that the other 'issues' are no longer present. Keep the lines of communication open with your other half, for us that made a huge difference.

Today is my 5 year anniversary and I can say without a doubt that you can have hope for even more intense orgasms post-op! The Dr took my cervix and left my ovaries also. My orgasms turned into vaginal orgasms and they are AMAZING!!!! They are definitely different but they are wonderfully intense. So, keep up hope....it can be better than before!

Thank u everyone. I am now at home and I only had my uterus removed. I still have my cervix and ovaries and my incision is unbelievable! I thought I would look like frankenstein and instead my incision is longways about 14 inches below my bikini line and no staples!
THANK EVERYONE for ur unbelievable support.. I love u all and I will keep u all posted

Good for you. I had LAVH/BSO and started on the estrogen patch before I left the hospital. I am about 7-8 weeks out and have had no problems with lubrication tho I did make sure it was on hand if needed.