Calling Different Dr. Today

I thought I was prepared to deal with almost any thing regarding surgery. If complications happened, I would deal with them as they arose... if I was emotional, well I was ready for dealing with that too... What I wasn't ready to deal with? An uncaring Dr. I thought I could trust.

Let me back up a moment.

I had issues, so went to see my normal family Dr. She referred me to the OBGYN. First appointment with the OBGYM went great. She took a lot of time to talk to me getting my medical history, talking about all the different options (beyond just hysterectomy) and I felt comfortable with her. Set up a 2nd appointment with her where she did some test on me that involved putting saline upinside of me and doing an ultrasound from the inside. Anyways... she was nice during that appointment too.We got the test results and we decided on the hysterectomy as being my option. I was okay with that. All the sudden she became less talkative.. more short with me.. quick short answers... Okay... figured taken up enough of her time.. They call and schedule surgery, and I am told that what will happen is this: Surgery on Friday the 26th, 7:30am, TVH. Since I am prone to UTI's and kidney infecions I would recieve by IV antibiotic for 2 days after surgery to help prevent that happening. Go home Sunday afternoon, perhaps Monday.

Friday morning of surgery, I am a nervous wreck. I'm in pre-op, she comes in, I tell her I'm a nervous wreck.. she seems shocked, says but you were so ready for this.. I said yea, but still nervous. She doesn't ask if I have any questions, just leaves and I ask tons of questions of the nurses and anthesiest. They gave me an antibiotic in the IV before and during surgery.

Friday after Surgery wake up in a lot of pain due to the IV complication which they get resolved and get pain under control. Friday was not a bad day. I didn't see the surgeron (my OBGYN) again... at all Friday. She has them give me one more round of antibiotics. Cool. During the day I asked a couple of times how long would cath be in, how long would I need oxygen.. nurses all say same thing all day.. 7am Saturday morning they would remove that stuff. Friday goes by okay. I slept most of the day... wasn't in a lot of pain.

Saturday morning 24 hours after surgery start time, OBGYN/Surgeon comes in bright and early.. See's the oxygen in my nose still and says in a sharp voice, why is this still in, get this out of your nose. (like it's my fault the nurses still had me on it) Then starts immediately have you been out of bed (only once because I had cath in and nurses had said to wait until they took it out that morning to try to move more) again she acted like it was my fault it was still in. I asked about eating solid food (I was still on liquid) and again Dr. got impatient and said, um, I told them to advance you as you wanted, why haven't you eaten yet? (Nurses said I had to wait for her to order it) and so on and so on. Basically she was a bit rude and made me feel like I hadn't been following orders, when I did every thing nurses told me to.

I was in quite a bit of pain Saturday morning. Way more then I had been Friday and as she briefly (yes all this was very quick) talks to me, she says time to take the IV out and take you off the morphine pump. I tried to tell her I was still in pain (not controlled at all at that point even with the pump) and maybe I could be taken off it slowly through the day. She interrupted me very quickly, laughs and says, we don't do things that way here. It's coming off. If you are hungry and want food you don't need an IV. We didn't even know yet if I would be able to hold food down??!! But I said, okay, what you feel is best. Asked about more antiboitic since we had talked about that before surgery even happened, and she said she didn't need to give me any more.. I had had a strong dose Friday before adn right after surgery..

Fine.

She then says, we'll see how you do today.. Put you on Percocet and IBuprofen during the day. Get you out of bed to walk, see where your pain is.. if your doing well, you can go home after dinner, if your not, then you can stay another day.. I was okay with that. She leaves without another word.

I did not do well during the day Saturday. I was in serious pain, the meds were not controlling it...I managed to eat, but not a lot, but didn't get sick. How ever, the pain was bad. Then when I was going pee, there was basically solid blood in the urine. None in my pad, only when I peed. I told the nurse. She called the Dr... and without coming in to see me, Dr. says it's nothing, normal. Not to worry about it. (This was early afternoon Saturday)

So, I take more meds, sleep a bit more, wake up... go potty, more blood and even more pain. Again tell nurse, and this time insist that they need to at least check me out. (I had complications after a galbladder surgery I was not taking chances) after a few rounds with the nurse calling the Dr. the dr. ordered a straight cath to see if blood was indeed in urine or not. It was... and it was decided I had a kidney infection.

Dr. presscribes me a medicine to the nurse over the phone for kidney infection) and then tells the nurse to send me home. (This was around 8pm Saturday evening) Nurse comes in and tells me.. and I was like, your kidding right? As much pain as I am in, you want me to try and go home at 8pm...

I was surprised because Dr. had made it sound Saturday morning like it would end up being my call on how I felt. So nurse called Dr. back to see if I could go ahead and stay through the night. (Insurance and money are not and were not issues at all) Dr. says no... she's fine, she has her meds, she can go home. I went back and forth with nurse a couple times (who was very sweet and was trying to work with me) and told her I felt really sick, I was in tears, scared of going home and dealing with pot holes etc in my current pain.. so she called Dr. one more time who didn't call back, didnt call back. So nurse said I could stay. (it was 10pm by this point) I was like, yea.. so tried to settle back to sleep.

That dang OBGYn called back at 11pm and said "No, I released her, send her home.. She can stay if she wants, but you can't give her any more pain meds on my order or any more care beyond her using the room because I have released her to go home) She can go get her prescriptions filled, but no more from here..

WHAT THE HECK? I wasn't dong fine and it's not like I was begging for pain meds all day. I took them at the scheduled time I was told to and made note when they didn't help, but didn't ask for more or any thing? I wasn't mean to the nurses, I mostly slept. She went from seeing how I was doing to it doesn't matter how she's doing, send her home in less than a day? All while I am also dealing with the bleeding in urine and kidney infection she hadn't wanted to check for earlier that day?

Anyways, we ended up packing up, my husband and me, and leaving at 11:30pm.. and OMG... the trip home was worse then I had feared it would be. Where we are staying is 30 minutes away from the hospital along roads with lots of construction etc. I was crying in pain most of the ride. Get to the hotel and had a rough night Saturday night once home after midnight. No pharmacy's near us open 24/7 so had to wait until walmart opened at 10am to get my medicine scripts filled... and all day Sunday was just a long day of being in and out of it in pain...

My side hurts badly, my legs keep going numb, I keep getting dizzy.. I am not bleeding any more, but am leaking a bit of fluid...

I just don't understand what I did wrong to make my Dr go from being nice, to basically kicking me out of hospital at 11pm at night?

I am calling my family dr. this morning as soon as they open to talk about my pain, and concerns at this point (will never call that OBGYN back again and will need to find some one else to do my 6 week post op check)

anyways... sorry this is ranting and if it doesn't make sense... it's 6:30am Monday morning and I am kind of out of it still.. but have so many questions and hurt and well, needed to vent.

First of all I am sooooo sorry that you are going throught all of this! I cannot imagine having to deal with the pain of surgery and the pain in the butt doctor of yours.

Second, I think that if I were in your shoes I would at least call the hospital and throw one heck of a hissy fit about this doctor!!!! I am sure you are not the only patient she has treated this poorly and she needs to be held accountable!!!

Good Luck!

This is ridiculous! No one should be denying you pain medication this soon after surgery. I have never heard of someone being discharged that late at night. Your doctor sounds like an a-hole, excuse the language. You definitely need to find another doctor, and you are doing the right thing by contacting your primary physician. He needs to know to whom he is referring people!

I hope you feel better soon. If you need to go back to the hospital, God forbid, you make sure they know that she is no longer your doctor and you want to be seen by someone else!

Oh my goodness! First, I hope that you got more pain meds from your GP. Second, when you feel better please find out who to call and complain about this doctor. Unbelievable! For now, try to get her out of your mind and rest. You can deal with her later. If you can't, have your DH call & or go in there and rant and rave about your treatment. Sorry you had to go through this!

The OB did seem rather weird, maybe can you report her so it wont happen to another? HUGS

God Bless

As I was reading this, I was getting more and more angry for you. This is just absurd! I am so sorry you had to put up with this!
I would definitely call your family physician to see if there is anything they can do for you regarding pain at this point, and absolutely see another OBGYN for the post-ops. In no way, shape or form should she have denied any type of comfort measures so quickly out of surgery.
Just as someone else said - try to rest right now and heal up. I hope your primary doctor can help you.
If I were in your shoes, I would be calling once I felt up to it, or have my DH call and issue a formal complaint.
I am so sorry. :-( Keep us updated with how things go.

You need to report this doctor to your insurance company and send this write-up to a public forum such as rate my doctor, etc. Unacceptable.

You could have a legal case here! Your very health was endangered - if you hadn't stood up for yourself, what would've happened??

Someone needs to know about this -- you have documented it well here -- share it with the hospital and whatever practice she is affiliated with.

I'm so sorry this happened to you - how very, very wrong. Major surgery is hard enough - you need compassion and concern - not attitude.

God bless you sweetie. I pray things get better and better from here. Praying for you!

Gwen

I hope you got some relief for you pain. My heart is with you.

The advice to report this doctor to the insurance company, to the hospital and whatever boards or organizations they are affiliated with seems to be good.

Keep breathing, and take care of yourself now. Try to let your husband take this stress and anger from your shoulders so you can spend your energy recovering.

Hoping things will get better for you.

Oh, my goodness; You have got to be kidding me. What an inconsiderate, uncaring doctor.

I would see if you could take legal action against this doctor so that it would not happen to any other woman.

You would need to find another doctor to do the post op unless your primary care physician can help you.

My heart goes out to you...keep us posted.