My Surgery is tomorrow I am very anxious!

I am scheduled for surgery at 7:30 in the morning Anxiety has gotten the best of me. I stayed up cleaning. doing laundry, shampooing carpets until 2:00 this morning and I am working today, my last day for six weeks. I just keep thinking about all the things I have to get done before morning and am so nervous. I had a galbladder surgery in April and a Lap done in September so I kind of know what to expect. I just worry about things not getting done while I am unable to do them, I guess this is just normal or am I overreacting? I clean houses on the side and I work at a bank during the day and I just worry about how long it will be before I can continue those things?

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Originally Posted by prissyb19 I am scheduled for surgery at 7:30 in the morning Anxiety has gotten the best of me. I stayed up cleaning. doing laundry, shampooing carpets until 2:00 this morning and I am working today, my last day for six weeks. I just keep thinking about all the things I have to get done before morning and am so nervous. I had a galbladder surgery in April and a Lap done in September so I kind of know what to expect. I just worry about things not getting done while I am unable to do them, I guess this is just normal or am I overreacting? I clean houses on the side and I work at a bank during the day and I just worry about how long it will be before I can continue those things?

Dear Prissyb,



My prayers are with you. I believe you will do well. I had the same feelings before my surgery and did everything possible because I knew I would not be able to do so afterwards for a number of weeks. I cried for about 3 days with anxiety and fear of the unknown. Time will go very quickly and before you know it you'll be back to life's normal activities. Please don't rush back into things. Take the time your body needs to heal. I thank God that everything turned out well for me and that this was the best decision I made since my marriage to my DH and having two wonderful sons. Sending my prayers and blessings your way. Know that you're not alone in this. Please keep us posted.

Sandra
LAVH/BSO (severe endo and adenomyosis on tubes, ovaries and uterus) living pain free and feeling great

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I'm humbly sharing my experience only not a medical professional.

I felt the same way. I took off the day before my surgery to do my bowel prep so I drove my dh crazy with things I kept thinking had to get done.

Had my surgery and everything went fine. My dear pets survived dh taking care of them. The floors got swept, laundry done, etc etc.

You need to take care of yourself everything else will be there when you are up to it.

Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Thank you so much for the replies. I am not one to sit around and I am always up doing something. We have a farm on top of everything else and I am a little OCD about keeping things done so the thought of everything not getting done scares me. But I am lucky enough to have a great support system. My mom is going to help as well as my mother in law and I have wonderful friends but I just want to do as much as possible until I am unable and I am wearing myself out! Also I have a five year old little boy! But I have faith that it will be fine, and I know I have to take care of me. This site and message board has been great. I have learned a lot! It is very nice to have caring people that want to help others.

Hi.
You are certainly allowed to have the cleaning frenzy-most of us have been there, it is very normal. You will have to be much more cautious afterwards. Please take the warnings seriously about having one chance to heal correctly. You probably made the decision to have surgery because you want to be healthy and strong. It sounds like you will have lots of help getting there-let them do the work-reward them by letting them see you getting beter.
I will pray for your surgery and peace of mind.

Thanks Seas I appreciate that very much!

Prissyb19,

As the others have said, its ok to have this panic issues. Just when you get home, let it GO... No cleaning, no picking up other then the remote and your glass of water or juice. If you take care and do as your Dr. and your body tells you, you will be back on your feet soon. Please DONT over do it and think that you feel great and becasue you are board its ok to try and clean or go back to work before your Dr tells you too. I did and I wish someone would hav kicked me in the back side for it. I'm ok now, but , when the others in my group where going back to work at 6, 8 and 10 weeks, I was still draging my butt. I went back at 4 days, I felt good, had a sit down job, only worked 4 to 5 hrs per day the first 2 weeks. Started cleaning my house at week 2, laundry at week 3. I'm now 6 months and just now able to make it all week with out having to take a naps or spend a full day napping on the weekends. So please take it slow. One other thing, Stay in your PJ's as long as you can, if your start wearing normal stuff your family will think your are ALL BETTER and stop helping you around the house, so stay in the sweats, PJ's, Moo-moo or what every you like, just don't get dressed, at least the first few weeks.
Denise

Dear Priscilla,

Best wishes for much success tomorrow!! I am right behind you, the 29th! It is reassuring to know that other women are anxious about getting things done and being ready and what on earth will happen when I can't do what I feel is my obligation/duty....

The advice and encouragement about being more careful/gentle with myself is important... I'll try to take care of ME like I would take care of my 98 year old aunt or my DH or almost 25 & 18 yr old sons... Well, the boys are going to be helping mother... they do for themselves just fine... I've always been the caretaker, not the -takee.

Best view on the matter for me is from my DH, he says that he will be willing to do anything he can, it will all be there to work on together when I am feeling up to doing things, and that that means however long it takes. There is no rush, he's here for the long haul.

And - I need to do as the surgeon advised at pre-op consult last Tues... best thing for me (over-achiever, little ocd) is to "just chill" and don't feel like you don't deserve to be helped, taken care of and appreciated. She said "just chill" in a good way, relax, your job is to chill out and veg...without guilt. (still anxious....) ;-)

Oh, and I've been told anxiety isn't a bad thing. It is quite appropriate considering the adventure we are on...

I've got my little tiara, pink fluffy robe, lavender slippers... all dainty + so not me at all!!! The Princess strategy is my context for success psychologically and physically. Thank you Hyster-Sisters!

Prayers and good thoughts for you tomorrow!!!

Priscilla and Daffodil Smiles,
I, too, am scheduled for the 29th and the anxiety if driving me nuts. Along with the OCD stuff of doing this right after the holidays! I have 3 kids (9, 8, and 7 months) and I'm going nuts with all the things that I see NEED to be done and how crappy I feel right now when I try to get up and do things. I end up hurting and getting so tired. DH keeps telling me he (and the boys, 9 and 8) will get things cleaned up and it will be okay, but they don't and I see it all and get tired. Again. *sigh* I am feeling boxed in and emotionally spent at this point and I know it's anxiety.

I have my mom coming for 2 weeks post-op and my sister coming for about 2 weeks after that, which I know will be huge helps. But I worry about how I will be after that with the whole idea of picking up my daughter, carrying her in her carseat (which I know I won't be able to do), and then taking back over the household duties that I do all the time. My mind just keeps going crazy with all of that stuff that I know will be there when I'm "well".

I'm going to TRY to take it easy post-op and let people do things for me, but I'm just getting more and more OCD as each year passes.

See you on the flip-side??? :-)

Amanda,

Yes, see you on the flip side (we just don't want to "flip out"!!!) I hope to be home New Year's Eve if all goes well. Sitting @ computer will be very uncomfortable for a while. May ask Dear Husband to type for me...

Prayers and healing thoughts to you!!! It really is nice to know we aren't alone !!