As if I needed this

Whoo HOO Christmas is over... and my parents are on their way back home... but could they have left quietly NOOOOOOO!!!!

We are currently renting their trailer from them atm. I got told I either get rid of my purr babies, or find another house to live in. I did NOT need this... One week post op and now either sweating a move or getting rid of my purr babies and all within the next month...

Right now I'm so mad I can't see straight. :burning:

Nice of them to be so ultra supportive, huh?


Thanks for letting me rant

(((((((Kiarana)))))

I am so, so sorry that your parents are showing such a lack of sensitivity and compassion. You are very early in your healing and the pain and stressors which have newly invaded your life and those that have been there before the surgery will be that much harder for you to cope with.

It sounds as if you and your parents have a strained relationship to begin with. If this is the case, were you surprised by their reaction to your 'purr babies'?

Okay, Kiarana, I see a road out of this situation for you if you care to hear it. This is only my opinion and it is not meant to offend. I am trying to think of what I would do if faced with the same situation. My disabled mom lives with me so my situation is a bit different. However, here is my humble opinion for what its worth.

Is there a friend around that could babysit your purr babies for a month or two while you allow yourself time to heal and look for another place to live? At this moment in time you are in NO CONDITION to even think about moving. You need to concentrate on your body's needs. You only have one chance to heal properly and this is it. Please, try to rest as much as possible and start writing down a list of pros and cons about moving now or in a month or two. You can always visit your kittens and be in compliance with your parents rules at the same time reducing your stress level which is essential during healing. In the meantime, read the newspapers and pop on the net to find a new place to live. You should be able to find some pretty good deals because no one likes to move during the winter time.
If you wait to move then your healthy future will not be jepordized and you would have made the decision to move in a logical reasoning way instead of being born from hurt feelings. Remember, you won't be hurting your parents one bit by moving right away;therefore, hurting yourself seriously because of them would not be a good thing for you. Right now, you need to reprioritize your life so that your health is at the top of the list.

I hope you get everything figured out and peace will settle on your heart.

You will remain in my thoughts and prayers.

Tender Hugs and Lots of Prayers,

Tinamarie is so right you do not need this stress right now and her idea is a very good one. Given your relationship with your parents it sounds like it might be better if eventually you are not dependent on them for housing or anything else. That way you can work on your relationship without feeling obligated. You could also ask them for a little extra time to find another place to live. You sure have a right to be mad and vent away. Just want to send you some s

I wish there was someone I trusted around here to take care of my cats. My relationship with my Mom has been strained for the last 11 years, and from the looks of it, it isn't going to get better. Both of my parents HATE cats and knew when we moved up here that we had cats, and have dealt with that fact until now.. of all times. There was a move getting planned for anyways, since she tends to wreak havoc on my life constantly. Life tends to be much more peaceful when I can deal with her on my terms and not on hers.

I am wondering how far they live from you and how would they know the cats are still there? Can you just avoid telling her they are still around until you are able to move? Seems to me if she knew you had puddy tats when you moved in, that was part of the deal and you really don`t owe her an explanation.

I am thinking the issue here is not cats, but control. It seems to me when you moved in she maybe thought she would have control of you and come to find out....you are your own person anyway, so she picked the cat part to gain control again.

Try to remember that God is in control and He will make things work to your good in the long run. Just a few bumps along the way to remind us how nice things are when peace prevails.

Wishing you a peacful heart.

{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}

kaatie