13 weeks and frustrated

Very frustrated that I am 13 weeks postop tvlh..sex is still painful even with lube and my hubby can't even stimulate my clitoris any way... Feels numb and then suddenly irritated..sensation is gone.. Tons of bladder spasms and pressure still. Just want my body back!!

Sorry you are having problems. Unfortunately it takes longer than what the doctor says. I was not ready at 6 weeks for intimacy when he gave the go ahead, more like 12 weeks to start back. Also, we all heal differently time wise. We did have major surgery inside and it can take longer to get some of this working like it should. Most of it is in shock from the trauma of the surgery.

Here is a link on Intimacy:http://www.hystersisters.com/vb2/articlelist_221.htm

I wasn't released to be intimate till 10 weeks.. Had all the pain prior too, actually can't feel anything now.. Seeing doc tomorrow for bladder issues

You might also ask your doctor about estrogen cream to soften up the vaginal tissue.

I agree with the healing thing, we don't all heal on the same time frame. I'm 10 wks po and just now feeling somewhat "normal" down there. The bladder spasms finally stopped and to touch the clitoris isn't irritating as much as it was. I think as your body heals sensations will come back to being more normal. At least that seems to be my case.

Topical estrogen and topical testosterone either one, or both together, can help you recover sensation in your clitoris. Discuss it with your doctor. Did you have endometriosis? You say sex hurt before. If you did have endo, your doctor may have missed some implants.

i had surgery 4 weeks ago and im afraid to have sex again. im afraid of pain. as i had a massive myoma and pain was insane. so im afraid to experience the same. it may sound crazy but i just dont feel sexy anymore. i feel like my body is out of wack! i hope it changes for you and i would talk to my doctor about it if i was you!!! wish you well