Feeling alone :(

Could this time get any more worse? I'm a month post op from bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy with surgical menopause and now my two best friends think that my depression is all for attention. I vent to them because I cannot handle these thoughts or feelings. I tell them everythig that im feeling and at one point i kept everything inside bc it was just too much. Now I feel even more alone. I can't wait til next Friday so I can see my therapist. I just don't know why they would turn against me at this time.

I'm sure they also think that I blame all of this on my menopause. Such as the mood swings. It's true though, these mood swings come and go and along with the depression. It doesn't help at all. I mean, I'm 25 and I've never ever felt as bad as I do now.

Oh my! Well don't confide in them anymore. If you have a therapist then that's a good place to go and be sure to keep in contact with your dr. about the menopause symptoms to get some help. Of course you can always post on this forum also since everyone here can sympathize to some degree.

Considering your age I'm sure your friends have no idea what it's like and have probably never even thought about menopause. I'm not surprised they feel that way but they could at least listen.

I have had some mild hot flashes and think I may have had some emotional periods since my surgery. It seems to be getting worse and hope it doesn't but I feel for you since it's like there is nothing you can do to control things sometimes.

Take care and try not to stress

I'm glad that you have your therapist to talk to. It's good to let things out and not keep them bottled up. Yes you are going through emotional ups and downs, it's understandable. If your friends are making you feel worse when you talk to them, I suggest that you first explain to them how the things that they say make you feel. If that doesn't work, then sweetie you need to start considering that they might not be the best people for you. They may not understand what you are going through, but as your friend they should be there for you and not make you feel worse.
Like apbarr said let your doctor know what's going on also. He'll know if an adjustment or replacement in your HRT is needed.

I want you to know that the Lord will never leave you or forsake you. Trust in Him. Lean on Him and He will give you peace.
You are not alone!!
I am sending lots of ((HUGS)) to you

Im so sorry you are going through this. I am 35 and I have went through surgical menopause as well. My surgery was last summer and honestly this year has been one of my toughest. It can be very difficult emotionaly on some people (me included). I dont think at your age you can be prepared at all for all the changes your mind and body will go through. If your friends are close to your age I doubt they have a clue as to how you are feeling. Be patient with them and yourself. Perhaps talk with more women that can relate to how you are feeling. I have found this site to be very helpful in my struggle. I get helpful tips from women that has been through it or going through it. It has been my support team. Please keep your chin up and know you are not alone.

I just wanted to let you know I have been having the same problem with one of my best friends. I have confided in her and she cannot relate. I know her comments are not intending to hurt me but they do. She thinks just because it's been 6 wks that my life should get back to "normal" - her words. She doesnt get that my bladder does work, leaking urine and emotionally drained from this experience. How it that normal? I have already decided to distance myself slightly from her for a few days and not vent to her in the future. I am older than you but only one of my friends has been through this and is now hitting menopause. Most of my friends have no idea what it is all about and what our bodies and minds have been through. Talk to your therapist....I went to one for the first time last week. Everyone needs a safe place to let it all out. This website has kept me going.

Your therapist can provide you with extra time during stressful times.

Ask for what you need.

Recognize everyone is not equipped for every experience.

Do what works....Use your therapist verses someone who doesn't know how to be supportive during your time of need.

Weird thing is you are not alone. I'm happy I found this thread (although it's sad that there is one about this problem with friends) it makes me feel better as I am in a similar situation.

Well I'm now on day 2 of taking hormones. I haven't had as many of the mini-flashes and have not had to choke back tears yet. My doctor stated that since I'm young that I would definately need to take something and I'm 41. I would think that hormones should help after you find the best one for you. I hope that your doctor can find something that will help with the emotions. Hopefully your friends will come around and be supportive.

I'm so sorry that you're going through this and feel so alone. I hope you find some good support with your therapist and through this site. We really do care. I remember when I was on the Depo shot at 15 that I had really bad menopause symptoms and mood swings. Unfortunately sometimes that's the hand we're dealt. I think your friends should be more sensitive to you being so young and fresh out of surgery. I'm only 28 and my surgery is on the 17th. My husband and I never planned on a family but I'm having all sorts of feelings and needs that I didn't expect. All my friends are having babies...not hysterectomies! I hope you find peace and use all your resources to your advantage.