Mmm76, While I can't relate to having children or cysts, I completely understand on the freakish periods, pain, embarrassment and frustration. My heart goes out to you.
After years of dealing with the pain, the marathon periods, not living my life because I couldn't venture from the house without extra clothes and a bag full of "supplies", I finally got to the point where I had suffered enough. I had researched about ablation and was ready to see if I could get it done. After going through several doctors that automatically assumed that all my issues were from me being +50 pounds overweight, I finally found a doctor that would sit down and listen.
After blood work, vaginal ultrasound, biopsies, etc I was informed that I had precancerous cells and a rather large polyp. This was nothing new to me, as I've had cryosurgery twice before. This time, however, my doc urged me that she couldn't in good conscious do the ablation until she removed the polyp and did a d&c to see what we were dealing with.... or (with my history of issues) go the "all in one route" and perform a hysterectomy.
After all these years of hoping to have a child, being in pain, the worry, humiliation, etc... when the word "hysterectomy" came out, I knew in my gut that was the right choice. I knew it was a possibility before that, but the reality of it was staring me in the face. I could go through 3-4 procedures and still have to do the same thing. Now, looking back, I know for a fact that even if I went through the various procedures, the outcome would have been the same.
I prayed about it, turned it over to God and got my answer... which I think I already knew before I left the docs office that day.
I can tell you honestly that it is kinda of scary. It hurt like nothing Ive ever felt. BUT... I know that I made the right choice, I'm healthier, saner and on my way to better things without the pain, frustration and humiliation of a lifetime of miserable periods.
I wish you all the luck in your choice, whatever it may be. Only you can decide what you want and need. Just know that there are others out there that are going through the same thing... you're not alone. This site has been wonderful for me in preparing for and enduring this process.
You are in my thoughts and prayers... May God bless and guide you.