Definitely falling!!!

I had a rectocele repair in May. I haven't felt right since, although I didn't feel right before either I spoke with my urogyn about some concerns with falling female parts and she said it was my "new normal". I was a bit offended that it was supposedly in my head, but almost hoped she was right! Not the case

I recently had a 3 week battle with bronchitis, and the cough finally did me in...bulging perineum, balloon-like skin at vaginal opening, cervix at vaginal opening, and difficulties emptying bowels without manual assistance (again), along with some urinary issues. Sorry if too graphic. I'm soso disappointed that my repair failed so quickly. I'm hesitant to return to same doc, even though she is one of the best in the area. I feel my concerns weren't addressed properly during my post-op care. Like my pain and own physical findings weren't real.

I now have to start all over with a new doc, although that may be a good thing. Very nervous that, most likely, this will eventually entail a new set of surgeries.

My husband and I aren't able to be intimate except on the rare occasion that I decide I will deal with pain for 2 days following. And spending half my day in the bathroom trying to relieve the constant urge to go or lying down to take the pressure off is not an option for me.

Just curious if other ladies have had similar experiences with a doctor and gone on to find a doctor who truly listens to what a woman says is going on with her body. I feel like a lying down exam with a measurement device should not supersede a woman's account of what her body is actually doing in an erect position (like most women must spend their days)...

I'd like to be able to return to normal activities, but for now, when I try, I end up regretting it. Who knew all of this could happen to a woman's body?!! The miraculous things our bodies can do, yet the drastic consequences that can take place as well!

Bless your heart. I personally haven't experienced any of this. But my mom is having some issues with her bladder bulgin vaginally. She is unable to have a surgery at this time bc of the limitations it will cause. My dad is being treated for a cancer found in the tube from his kidney. She was given some kind of device that she puts in manually for now. My heart goes out to you, I know this must be scary and extremely painful. I say find that new doc. Eventually someone is going to listen to you. Hugsss again!!!

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Originally Posted by paxton88 Bless your heart. I personally haven't experienced any of this. But my mom is having some issues with her bladder bulgin vaginally. She is unable to have a surgery at this time bc of the limitations it will cause. My dad is being treated for a cancer found in the tube from his kidney. She was given some kind of device that she puts in manually for now. My heart goes out to you, I know this must be scary and extremely painful. I say find that new doc. Eventually someone is going to listen to you. Hugsss again!!!

So sorry to hear about your mom and dad... Hope your dad's treatment goes well. I was a massage therapist in a cancer center for over four years...my heart goes out to your family. Thanks for your sweet reply Sometimes a little encouragement goes a long way!!

I'm so sorry to hear of both your stories. I am scheduled in two weeks for a hysterectomy due to sudden uterine prolapse and also a "minor" rectocele repair I wasn't even aware I needed diagnosed at the end of June. I will say I was a mess when it first happened, very painful, but a removable pessary has made it much more comfortable to at least wait for surgery. First doctor looked at me, confirmed prolapse, extreme pain, and said see you in six months. Second doc a week later again confirmed, diagnosed rectocele, fitted pessary and said see how that works for you. Back a week later to schedule hysterectomy. I would also suggest there are definitely other "options" for intimacy that shouldn't hurt you until you are able to again. Variety can be the spice of life even in these awkward times.

Thank you both for your well wishes. My daddy will be fine we are a pretty strong bunch. We've actually been very lucky. Up until these last three months, we have never had any major family catastrophies. All of our stuff just hit with a short time span. I know we have been a lot luckier than most. Thanks again