I am so sorry you're going through this. It's such a catch-22 situation, isn't it? We HAVE to work, to care for ourselves and our families, yet if we DO, we don't qualify for aid. This may ruffle some feathers, but I'm being honest....when I think of all the people, in my community alone, who have WAY more money than I do, and are on welfare, having baby after baby, selling drugs out of their FRONT YARD.....I just get so :burning: mad!!
I have been ill for over 3 years now, in a couple of different ways we won't go into
My DBF and I have planned our wedding, and simply cannot do it. He's in construction, and I'm just a secretary....I would have no ins. Right now I can't work because of the illness, so I do qualify for county medical aid. They tell me I could also get financial aid, and food stamps....but I REFUSE!!! I only want the medical, just to get me well enough to work again. But I want to be married so badly, and it breaks my heart that we can't. He makes too much money (barely).
Depending upon where you live, many hospitals take a certain number of indigent patients per year...make some calls, and see if anything can be done. Especially something as severe as vaginal repair surgery, one would hope some doctor would be willing to step up. Write your state's insurance commissioner, your state representative, state senator....anyone you can think of who might have some ideas for you. I know when you're feeling this low, that not many ideas pop into our heads, and it all feels so hopeless. But it's not!! Maybe they can set up a payment plan for you and your family? I mean, geez, everything else in this world is available on credit, right?
Good luck to you, and keep your chin up. We're here to listen and help you through this.