new girl

hello

I am new to this board and still exploring!

I have a date for hysterectomy 7 May. I am due to have womb and right ovary removed, because of endometriosis/adenomyosis.

At the moment I feel numb about it all .... cant really believe its going to happen and that I really need to have it anyway!!

Everyone around me is acting as if life will carry on as usual after May 7, and I cant imagine what it will be like...

The only real worry I have is that the surgery will make me even more ill than I already am ....


Nice to meet you all

Safia

Welcome!

The people here are sooooo awesome...so make yourself at home!

I too have endo. My surgery is the 30th (this week!)

Most people around me are acting the same, except my DH is is pampering me before I become a princess! lol. I hope he can maintain that after the surgery...that's when I'll need him.

For me I like 'life as usual'. It gives me something to hope for because I haven't felt normal in a long time. Too much pain. I also don't want my friends and family making a fuss...that will scare me more.

I'm glad you found this site. All the information and support you need can be found right here!

Rita

......and spend as much time on this site as you can! It was a lifesaver for me and the support here is incredible....It's amazing how quickly total strangers from all over the world can become your dear friends!
My best advice to you right now is to ask all the questions you have...either here or to your doctor...fear of the unknown is the worst part of it...the more mentally prepared you are, the better.
I am now 10 days post-op...and still, I come back to the site everyday.
WELCOME to Hyster-Sisters...good luck to you...looking forward to hearing from you again.

Welcome! Ask all your questions now and post-op. We're here to help. No topic is off-limits. I'm sure all your friends are like most people. Unless it's them, they don't feel what we feel. Those of us who are going through the same thing or already have had our hyst can truly empathize with you. That's why we are here to help. May 7th really isn't that much longer!

TC

We're surgery sisters! My date is also May 7th.

Feeling numb is actually a good thing. The changes of dealing with a crisis are: denial (that numbness you feel), anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

Anger isn't a bad thing. It's the stage where we get to be VERY selfish - as a good, recovering princess should be! It's the time to be taking care of ourselves and not taking care of others. Post-op is the time to let others do for us.

Bargaining and depression is the time when everything starts to "hit" as to what the surgery means in our lives. It's a time to re-examine our accomplishments and goal. We also get to grief for the path(s) not taken. It's good to do this during the later part of recovery because we get introduced to our new, stronger, healthier, pain-free body again and that helps when we're busy with the task of designing our future.

Acceptance is the business of living that wonderful life post-surgery.

Good luck!