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So Confused and Emotional After Hysterectomy

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I'm emotional after my hysterectomyEver since I heard I had to have a hysterectomy, I feel like a part of me is isolated in a world of fear and nobody can reach me. Why is this so hard?

Replies from the hearts of our HysterSisters members:

"I understand how you feel. I think we all go through a time of feeling alone in our grief and fear of what is coming when facing this surgery. Even though our loved ones feel for us, they can't know exactly how we are feeling unless they have been through the same thing. Also, people handle things differently and sometimes we don't know how to relate to each others' pain and fear - we are overcome and feel helpless in what to do or say."

"It is a major loss to go through giving up your female parts but it is worth it to have better health because of that loss. You will work through your feelings and things will be ok but know that you are definitely not alone in your feelings and fears. There is much hope beyond your despair, though. Look forward to brighter days - they will come and in the meantime write with any questions and concerns. We are here for you."

"Oh honey, it is a very hard and heartbreaking decision. I remember the first time the doctor mentioned the word, it sounded like a death knell in my ear. Hysterectomy evokes all kinds of feelings - issues about womanhood, motherhood, anxiety and an overwhelming sense of loss and finality. It is funny how emotionally attached we are to our uterus - it is an intrinsic part of our identity as a woman. We would never feel the same way about our appendix, for example. Work though your feeling - the ups and downs are very normal. Remember to share - vent - ask. Most of us have been where you are - you are not alone. Sending you warm thoughts."

"You are definitely not alone in your feelings, as the ladies above me have stated. I know it seems like nobody around me was even close to understanding how I felt. I often felt/feel like I'm screaming and no one can hear me. My aunt recently had a TVH, and she was there for me to advise on a few different things, but even then I still felt as though no one understood how I felt. My parents and DH kept "pretending" it wasn't really happening, and that certainly doesn't help. It's crazy how much a body part can mean to us isn't it? I'm sorry that your heart is breaking, I don't wish that on anyone. But know that there are many women on this site that can identify with our feelings, I have already gotten so much understanding and support here. I hope that you can find that as well."

"Oh your definitely not alone in your feeling sweetie.. I have days were I barely feel like functioning . I feel alone and scared. My family try as the might just aren't capable of understanding. (I am the lone female in my house)."

This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.

03-13-2008 - 08:59 PM


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