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What should I ask my doctor about post-op intimacy?What should I ask my doctor about post-op intimacy? Is my doctor giving me accurate information?

Many women forget to ask their doctor before surgery how a hysterectomy will affect their intimate life. Some women remember to ask, but don’t get helpful, detailed, or accurate information from their doctor. As you prepare for surgery, you might want to see what some post-op HysterSisters have to say on the matter.
"When I was told that I needed a hysterectomy, I didn't even think about my sexual self. My doctor asked if I was done having children, I said yes, then he said OK, then let’s take everything—you don't need it anyway. I didn't even ask about sex, or vaginal dryness or anything like that."

"I wasn't told anything before surgery. I was very upset to discover how I was changed. I thought I had made a BAD mistake having the TAH/BSO. Things turned around about 14 months post-op. My love life is sooo much better than before the surgery. I began to see a difference when I started the testosterone."

"Before I agreed to surgery, I asked my doctor about how sexual function would feel after surgery, and he was about half honest, saying that I would miss the uterus and cervical response, but most women respond from clitoral stimulation, and I would still have that. I really didn't realize how much of a response was uterine until I didn't have one! It took quite a while for me to get used to my "new" response."

"My doctor said that sex would actually be a bit better after my hysterectomy. I had a bit of vaginal atrophy before my surgery that the HRT afterwards has helped improve. So he was right!"

"My doctor said, "it might feel a little different, but it would still feel nice." Very understated and superficial description I now think."

"My doctor told me that a hysterectomy will not cure a bad sex life, but in my case it would sure improve the opportunity for a sex life. It never occurred to me to ask about the possibility I might lose my interest in sex. I was fully expecting things to get back close to normal with maybe a little different feeling without a uterus. I was wrong!"
As you can see, different women are given different expectations and come to find different realities, for better or for worse. As you approach your hysterectomy date, be sure to add intimacy to your list of questions for your doctor, but also visit the Sexual Dysfunction Articles for a more full, detailed picture of what you might expect. Keep your partner informed as you do your research so that he knows what the risks are as well and can start mentally preparing for the road ahead.

This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.

11-07-2013 - 08:12 PM


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