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Ways to Symbolically Grieve Your Loss After Hysterectomy
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What are some ways I can symbolize the loss of my uterus?
Even when women mentally accept that they need a hysterectomy, it can be hard to emotionally accept the loss of their uterus. The uterus means something different to every woman--whether its the womb that carried children, the womb that might have carried children, or simply a symbol of womanhood. It's a connection to your sisterhood of women--to your mother and to your grandmothers and to the continuation of a legacy of nurturing and creating life. Even though you still have a million other things to offer, it is still natural to feel a sense of loss.
One physician suggests coping with the loss just as you would the loss of anything else significant in your life. She suggests that having a symbolic ritual can bring closure and allow you to cope with your feelings better. Many HysterSisters have found creative ways to symbolize their loss so they can find peace to move forward. One of their choices may work for you as well.
- Draw a picture of your uterus.
- Create an artistic symbol of your uterus.
- Make a quilt or pillow.
- Plant a tree.
- Buy a bereavement angel.
- List your feelings on paper.
- Burn or burying something that symbolizes your uterus.
- Have a going away party and invite your closest friends.
- Compose a poem or song about your uterus.
- Write a thank-you letter to your uterus.
- Purge your drawers and closets of clothes and bedding you connect with your uterus and hysterectomy.
- Gather up all your pads and tampons and take them to a Women’s Shelter.
- Purchase or make a piece of symbolic jewelry.
- Crochet a uterus shaped pillow.
- Start a journal.
- Schedule daily quiet time.
- Adopt a pet.
- Get a tattoo.
- Get a new piercing.
- Find a support group–formal or informal.
- Seek grief counseling.
- Seek spiritual counseling.
- Allow yourself to go through the grief cycle.
Whether you choose one of the above or come up with a plan of your own, know that your feelings are valid. Feelings of sadness and grief are very normal while traveling the hysterectomy journey. When you have a hysterectomy, you lose something that has been a part of your life, and even though it may have caused pain and problems, there are feelings of grief and loss nonetheless. It is okay to feel the way you do; it is part of healing.
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
01-28-2014 - 08:22 PM
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