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Do This - Not That: Resuming Intimacy After Hysterectomy
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What are some tips that will help when I am released to resume intimacy?
Following your hysterectomy, your doctor
will restrict your intimate activities until you have healed enough. You may have to wait for intimacy after hysterectomy
for a few weeks or even a couple months. For some women, all sexual activity can be off limits during recovery, while for others outercourse after hysterectomy
may be allowed earlier than actual intercourse.
Your restrictions can depend on a number of variables including the type and extensiveness of surgery, your surgeon’s specific surgical techniques, whether or not you kept your cervix, your overall health situation, and more. You only have one chance to heal right the first time and any intimate activity can cause reactions in the pelvic region, so it is very important to be sure that it is okay to engage in intimacy before attempting it. Engaging in intercourse or intimate activities early can result in complications such as vaginal cuff tearing
, infection, or delayed healing.
Once you are released, you may feel nervous about returning to intimacy. Here are some dos and don’ts you can follow to help those first times go more smoothly.
- Talk to your partner beforehand.
- Give yourself time to feel romantic again.
- Create a romantic atmosphere for the first time.
- Relax–being tense could make things worse.
- Incorporate a massage.
- Take it slowly.
- Use some personal lubricant.
- Have realistic expectations.
- Keep things gentle for a while.
- Don’t expect too much too soon.
- Don’t feel badly if you feel hesitant.
- Don’t be disappointed if the first few times are not sensational.
- Don’t stop cuddling as it can keep you connected.
- Don’t skimp on foreplay which can help prepare your mind and body.
- Don’t forget that intimacy is more than the sexual act.
- Don’t assume your sex life is over if the first few times are lacking in fireworks.
- Don’t forget that your partner may feel hesitant about resuming intimacy.
- Don’t panic if there is a bit of discharge or tenderness–but monitor those symptoms.
Returning to intimacy can be a bit scary for both you and your partner, so communication is important. It may take a little while, but as long as you healed well your intimate life should return to normal with some patience and gentleness.
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
08-26-2014 - 12:40 PM
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