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4 Thoughts about Your Last Period before Hysterectomy
From the Pre-Op Hysterectomy Articles List
I am having mixed emotions about my last period. Is this normal?
Though having menstrual periods is a normal part of being a woman, at times they can be inconvenient, bothersome, painful, and even downright embarrassing. At times, period issues can be significant enough to require medical intervention and maybe even a hysterectomy.
Whether period issues or other gynecologic issues lead you to a hysterectomy, you may find you feel downright giddy about putting monthly periods behind you. On the other hand, you may find that mixed in with the sense of relief you feel a myriad of other emotions as well.
1. Saying good-bye can be sad or thrilling.
Having a monthly period is part of growing up and becoming a woman. You experience one every month, beginning as a young girl. So saying good-bye to “Aunt Flo” can feel like kicking out an old friend and even losing part of your womanhood. Although you may be glad you will no longer have to deal with the monthly hassle, you can also feel a bit of grief as a significant part of your life comes to an end.
2. Unrealized expectations may be hard to resolve.
Having a period signals your ability to conceive and carry a child. Whether you have been able to have a child or none, no longer having a period because of a hysterectomy removes this option forever. If you have not come to terms with your loss of fertility, not having a period can be a stab in your heart.
3. Understand your loss means so much more.
Realizing that your period means more than just a monthly inconvenience can help you cope if you feel sadness and grief over the end of this time of your life. It’s not that you will miss the hassle; it’s what a period represents that can be the issue.
4. Look for the half-full glass.
On the other hand, knowing you no longer have to schedule vacations, intercourse, and fun times around your monthly period can be a relief! Being able to wear white pants all month long, every month of the year can be liberating. Knowing you will never have another embarrassing accident at church, work, or school can leave you exhilarated. And your purse, glove box, and desk drawers will have room for so many other things once you empty them of all the extra pads and tampons you've been carrying around for years!
If your periods were painful, you can experience a great sense of relief that you will no longer have to bear it or live on pain relievers for a week each month. If extensive blood loss was an issue, your overall health can improve as anemia becomes a thing of the past and you are no longer exhausted one week a month.
Whether you find you are happy or sad to see your periods end, your emotions are perfectly normal. A woman’s monthly menstrual period is a part of who she is–for better or worse–so either emotion, or both, can be expected. If you feel like celebrating, go for it! If you feel the need to mourn, that’s okay, too.
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
11-17-2014 - 01:35 AM
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