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Intimacy | Being Emotionally Ready after a Hysterectomy
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What if I am not emotionally ready to return to intercourse even when my doctor releases me?
Following a hysterectomy, you will need to wait
until your doctor
releases you before engaging in physical intimate acts. However, you may find that once your doctor releases you, you still don’t feel emotionally ready for intimacy. Don’t worry, you aren’t alone and your feels are normal.
A hysterectomy can affect how you feel about yourself as a woman as it involves the parts of your body which you may feel define you as a woman. In addition, you may have been dealing with health issues and hormonal concerns which have affected your sex life prior to the surgery. As such, it’s not uncommon to have emotional concerns about resuming intimacy
. Physically, you may fear you'll have painful intercourse
, a loss of sensation
, or that your partner may notice changes in your anatomy. Emotionally, you may also feel you are less of a woman and not as desirable to your partner.
The first thing to remember is that your DNA defines you as a woman. You are not defined by your uterus or ovaries and having a hysterectomy does not take away your womanhood. Having a hysterectomy doesn’t change your femininity any more than a tonsillectomy or appendectomy. Furthermore, your hysterectomy was done to give you back your health. The parts that were removed were diseased and negatively impacting your life, so you they were eliminated in order to allow you to be a healthier you.
Though your head may be able to accept the facts, it could take longer for your heart. But that’s okay. Take time to acknowledge how you feel. You have every right to those feelings as they are real and they are yours. You and your partner should also take time to talk to each other about how you both feel. Husbands can also be hesitant about resuming intercourse
as they can fear they will hurt their wives following a hysterectomy.
Planning a romantic date can also help you and your partner connect emotionally before attempting to engage in the physical act of intimacy. Tenderness and affection between the two of you outside of intercourse can help you feel united and cherished so that the actual act of intercourse is a natural progression rather than a feared step.
A hysterectomy affects you physically and emotionally, so give your heart and body time to heal. You don’t have to engage in intercourse the day your doctor releases you, but keeping tenderness and affection alive during your recovery can help you be emotionally ready once your doctor does give you the go ahead.
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
12-24-2014 - 03:59 PM
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