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10 Tips for Staying Sexual During Menopause
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How can I keep my sex life alive during menopause?
Wherever you are on the road to menopause
, you may be worried about how this change in life will affect your sex life. You can have many concerns about intimacy
at this time in your life. You may have heard that sex ends with menopause and there is nothing you can do about it. Yet, you may be too embarrassed to talk to your doctor or your partner about your fears.
Despite the symptoms that menopause may bring, you can have a satisfying sex life during menopause. It may take a bit of effort and creativity on your part, but the end results can be worth it!
Here are 10 tips you can follow to add spark to your intimacy during menopause
1. Pamper yourself.
Nurturing your inner self
can have an impact in all aspects of your life. If you feel good about yourself, you can also feel sexy and desirable. So get a massage, have your nails done, try a new hairstyle, or buy a new dress–whatever will make you feel good about yourself.
2. Be healthy.
If you don’t feel well, you probably won’t be interested in sex. To help you feel our best, treat any chronic health issues, eat healthy
, get some sleep, and manage stress
. The better you feel physically, the better you can feel sexually.
3. Be active.
and being active can improve your energy level, mood, and body image, all of which can heighten your interest in sex. So get up and move. Start an exercise program, go for a daily walk, and find creative ways to add some steps to your day. Better yet, ask your partner to join you!
4. Manage menopause symptoms.
When you are coping with frustrating and annoying menopause symptoms
, it’s not surprising there’s an impact on your sex life. Hot flashes
, and insomnia
can all leave you uninterested in intercourse and intimacy. If you are trying to cope with menopause symptoms, talk to your doctor about your options. Hormone replacement therapy (HRT)
or other options can help you manage your symptoms and take control of menopause.
It’s important to keep the lines of communication open with your partner. You need to talk about how you feel, how sex is different now, and how your partner can help. Reaffirm your feelings for each other and talk about ways you can keep intimacy alive in your relationship. By talking to each other, you can choose to be intimate and choose to work through the challenges of menopause related intimacy issues.
6. Engage in touching.
One way to increase your interest in sex is to increase intimacy in your relationship. Instead of leaving all sexual contact to the bedroom, engage in touching throughout the day. The touches don’t have to be overly sexual, they just need to let you connect without expectation of intercourse. Try a quick kiss on the cheek, a gentle hug, frequent pats on the arm or back, and holding hands during a walk. Even if you aren't feeling sexual, reach out and lovely touch your partner every chance you get. It can add spark to your relationship and keep you close physically.
7. Be creative.
Because of all the changes menopause can bring, you and your partner may need to make some changes to intimacy. Take some extra time with foreplay, use a personal lubricant
, or make use of candles, scents, and music to help create the right mood. The key is to try tips and tricks that sound comfortable for both of you, so communicate about being creative. You don't have to try anything wild, just be open that you may need a bit of change in your routine. Also, remember that a lot of sex occurs in the mind, so atmosphere and creativity can help when there are desire and physical issues to contend with.
8. Use it or lose it.
As oddly as it sounds, not having sex can decrease your ability to have sex. Sexual intercourse increases blood flow to the vagina, helping with vaginal dryness, thinning tissues, and vaginal elasticity. So although it may not be as comfortable and you may need to go slow and use moisturizers or lubricants, try to stay sexually active so you don't completely lose your ability to have sexual intercourse. Although sex can start in the brain so "mind over matter" can go a long way to helping keeping intimacy alive, you may also need to address actual physical issues like vaginal dryness
that can occur during menopause.
9. Get professional help.
Your gynecologist can be a source of help. She can offer tips, products, and even refer you to therapy if necessary. Pelvic floor physical therapy
, biofeedback, and couples therapy are just some of the ways a professional can help you with intimacy problems.
10. Be patient.
In the end, be patient. While intimacy during menopause
may be different, your sex life can be satisfying and fulfilling if you are willing to put forth a bit of time and effort. Set realistic goals and expectations with your partner, and then together you can work to achieve them.
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
12-30-2015 - 06:00 PM
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