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Don't Let Snoring Stop Intimacy During Menopause!
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What can my spouse and I do about snoring? It’s affecting our relationship.
brings with it sleep issues
, from insomnia to snoring, which can put a damper on intimacy. When you consistently miss out on sleep, you can become irritable and cranky, emotions that don’t foster a closeness between couples.
Whether your partner snores or not, night sweats
, body aches, and other menopause symptoms
can keep you tossing and turning each night. Menopause may have even caused you to start snoring
so that neither you nor your partner get enough sleep.
Putting up with snoring won’t put either of you in the mood, and going without sleep makes you too tired to try. Instead of feeling dreamy about each other, being tired can make you long for sweet dreams alone.
Sure, you could each move to your own bedroom. That would let you get some sleep. But having your own rooms doesn’t foster the closeness that’s important for intimacy. So what can you do instead? Plenty!
First, no one snores on purpose.
Even though it may sound otherwise, a person who snores is not sleeping well. Of course, the person listening to the snoring isn’t either. You are a team and you are each affected by the other, so look at this as something to work through together.
Blaming each other won’t help, but neither will holding it all in. Set a time, aside from the middle of the night, to sit down and talk about your situation. Remind each other of your love and discuss how you can work together to fix the problem.
Next, get medical advice.
Snoring can be a sign that there could be an underlying health issue, such as sleep apnea
, which needs treated. If you are the snorer, it may be menopause related and you simply need some hormone replacement therapy (HRT)
and ways to effectively treat menopause issues. Your doctor
can also give you some ideas for how to stop snoring
. One or both of you may need to adjust some medications, switch to sleeping on your side, or lose some weight
. Raising the head of your bed 4-6 inches could also help. Depending on who is snoring and why, your doctor may have other suggestions as well.
Also, support each other.
Whether it’s you or him who needs to consider a CPAP machine or lifestyle changes to help with snoring, be supportive of each other. It can be easier to make healthy changes if your partner is encouraging.
Finally, find ways to be intimate all day, every day.
Because snoring can cause tiredness, frustration, and other feelings that put out the flames of desire, the two of you need to find ways to be intimate outside the bedroom. Love notes, a quick pat, a hug in the hallway–these are all little things that say, “I love you.” Keeping your love fresh and alive can make it easier to work though disturbances in the bedroom.
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
02-26-2016 - 03:01 PM
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