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Feeling Broken Since My Hysterectomy

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Woman depressedI feel broken since my hysterectomy. I can’t have more children and feel like less than a woman. I feel resentful of those who are announcing their pregnancies and expanding their families. Can anyone relate? How can I cope with these feelings?

Many of your HysterSisters can relate to the feeling of being broken after a hysterectomy. They understand how the pain increases with each new pregnancy and birth announcement. They've cried a river, too. You are not alone.

Grief after hysterectomy over the loss of your reproductive organs, especially if you were not ready to give up your fertility, is normal. It’s not easy to watch friends and family have babies while you can’t. It can cause anger, resentment, and pain. You feel guilty for not sharing in their joy, yet you are angry that you'll never be the one making an announcement. You feel emotionally battered, broken, and bruised.

While your pain won’t evaporate overnight, it does get better. There’s no magic potion to heal your broken heart. And no matter how much you try, mind over matter won’t work. You can’t pick a date to say, “I am done grieving.” It’s going to take some time and healing.

Just like your physical incisions and scars needed to heal, you need to let yourself go through the emotionally healing process, too. Give yourself permission to grieve your loss and accept that your feelings are normal. It’s okay to cry and even yell.

A typical grief cycle includes denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and, finally, acceptance. Allow yourself the time to work through each stage, one at a time. Don’t rush the process and don’t deny your feelings.

But at the same time, don’t let yourself become trapped by your grief. You can heal and move on–with time.

Reading about grief can help you understand the process and how normal your feelings are. A counselor or other professional can help and support you every step of the way, equipping you with techniques to mange your pain and reactions.

It’s okay to ask for help. You don’t have to cope alone. And your HysterSisters are always here.

This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.

07-29-2016 - 10:49 AM


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