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Do This - Not That: Coping with Grief after Hysterectomy
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What should I do to manage the grief I feel since my hysterectomy?
It’s perfectly normal to feel grief after a hysterectomy
. Many associate having a uterus as the very definition of being a woman.
You’ve had your uterus since you were born. When you hit puberty, it played a role in letting you know you were becoming a woman. Without it, you may now find you feel like you are less of a woman.
If your womb carried and nurtured your children, you may mourn the loss of the organ you once cherished. If instead it betrayed you by being barren and empty, you may feel anger and grief that you’ve lost your chance to try again.
All of your feelings are normal. And it’s going to take time to work through your grief. As you go through the process, here are some tips that can help.
- Know your feelings are normal.
- Acknowledge your pain.
- Talk to a counselor.
- Join a support group.
- Seek other professional help.
- Learn about the stages of grief.
- Read about what to expect while grieving.
- Keep a journal.
- Write down all of your thoughts and feelings.
- Find ways to express your feelings.
- Remember why you needed your hysterectomy.
- Surround yourself with a support system.
- Talk to others.
- Practice relaxation techniques.
- Recognize symptoms of depression.
- Learn to recognize your grief triggers.
- Remember, it’s okay to cry.
- Draw comfort from your faith.
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
- Don’t discount your feelings.
- Don’t ignore your feelings.
- Don’t spend too much time alone.
- Don’t pretend you are okay when you are not–ask for help.
- Don’t use alcohol, drugs, or other substances to numb the pain.
- Don’t focus on only the negatives in your life.
- Don’t bury yourself in work or another activity to try to hide from our pain.
- Don’t spend time with those who bring you down rather than uplift your spirits.
- Don’t expect too much too soon–give yourself time.
- Don’t make any major decisions while grieving.
- Don’t forget you will always be a woman–your DNA says so!
- Don’t rush, but when you are ready, explore other parenting options.
- Don’t forget to take care of your physical health.
- Don’t give up!
07-29-2016 - 12:13 PM
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