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5 Strategies for Intimacy During Menopause
From the Menopause and Hormones Articles List
The challenges of menopause
don’t stop at the bedroom door. They march right in with you. Fatigue
, dry skin
, hot flashes
, and other common menopause symptoms
leave you feeling anything but romantic and sexy, extinguishing all thoughts of intimacy.
These days, when you think of bed you're not thinking about sex at all. Instead, you yearn for sleep
that is uninterrupted by night sweats
and trips to the bathroom.
If you’re tired of intimacy disappointments for both you and your spouse, you may want to try some new strategies. You can fight back and put some spice back into your marriage, one tip at a time.
Be open to change.
Your body has changed. There’s no doubt about that. So what worked in the past may not work now. A key for staying sexual during menopause
is embracing changes in the bedroom. You may need to adjust your routine, get creative, and consider using products you've never needed before. Good communication is going to be critical as you and your partner experiment and explore new options for keeping things satisfying in the bedroom.
Spice things up earlier in the day.
Waiting until you crawl into bed to kindle a spark of desire is likely to backfire these days. You might set off a hot flash rather than stroke the embers of intimacy. Now that things can be a bit more challenging in the bedroom, it's important to stay connected with your spouse throughout the day. Intimacy is more than just the act of sexual intercourse, so don’t let all the day to day responsibilities drive you apart. Remember when you were dating? You made time to flirt, talk, and just be together, no matter how much was going on in your lives. Do that again – it can make things go more smoothly in the bedroom.
Take your time.
Thanks to menopause, you may need more time to become aroused and moist in preparation for penetrative intercourse. Taking things at a heated rush is going to leave you both disappointed. In fact, penetration may no longer be the main event. Instead, take your time. Explore each other’s bodies and find creative ways to extend foreplay. Although you may need to find new ways to enjoy sex
, it will be worth it.
Lubrication, lubrication, and more lubrication.
can make intercourse uncomfortable or even impossible. A moisturizing personal lubrication
can ease your discomfort, and, as an added bonus, applying it can add a new element to foreplay. If an over-the-counter product isn’t enough, talk to your doctor about using a vaginal estrogen
instead – but not during intercourse.
Don’t forget your health.
You could have more going on than menopause. If you are having trouble in the bedroom, schedule an appointment with your doctor
. Discuss all of your symptoms, have a complete well-woman exam
, and go over your medications to determine if there’s an underlying health reason that's causing issues with intimacy. If all is well except for menopause, you may want to consider hormone replacement therapy (HRT)
This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.
10-17-2016 - 12:47 PM
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