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Missing libido and menopauseIt’s frustrating when your libido disappears without a good-bye or backward glance. Whether it’s because of menopause, medications, a side effect of your hysterectomy, or something else entirely, you miss it.

It doesn’t matter why it’s gone or where it went, you want your libido back. So does your partner. You’ll do almost anything to get it back.

Consider your options.

Talking to your doctor is the first step toward finding a solution. She can review your health situation, discuss options based on your symptoms and health situations, and help determine the cause of your lack of libido so you can choose the best treatment option. Some of what she may suggest includes the following:
One option is hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Your libido can decrease along with your hormone levels, so replacing those hormones can be helpful. HRT can also help with common menopause symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings, and insomnia, all of which take a toll on your libido. It also treats vaginal dryness that makes sex uncomfortable and thus unappealing.

If using estrogen replacement doesn’t help, adding a bit of testosterone may be the answer. Too much testosterone can cause unwanted and unnecessary side effects, so before prescribing it your doctor should check your free and total testosterone levels. Once your hormone levels balance out, you may find you can discontinue the testosterone.

If testosterone or HRT is not right for you, there are some over-the-counter options you can consider. Avilimil, Lyriana, and estraVil are some of the products marketed as female enhancements supplements. There are also a number of herbs and supplements which may be helpful. Your doctor can help you consider the pros and cons of each and their possible effectiveness for you. Keep in mind, just because it is over-the-counter or says “natural” on the bottle does not mean it is safe. There are still risks and possible side effects that need to be considered.

Boosting your energy level is another way to help your libido. Menopause symptoms can leave you physically and emotionally tired, leaving little energy for bedroom activities other than sleeping. Menopause also tends to arrive at a time in life when you already have a lot on your plate. Learning to manage menopause symptoms and making changes to your day to day life can go a long way toward boosting your energy level and leaving you open for an interest in sex.

Your brain plays a role in sex. Even without a libido, you can add a spark to your relationship which can then increase your libido – creating a nice cycle. Make it a point to touch, talk, and cuddle. Plan date nights and ways to spend time together outside the bedroom without the pressure of sex. The key is to communicate with your partner about your struggles so you can work together to make your relationship stronger. If your brain feels in love, it’ll be easier for the rest of you to feel the love.

Don’t forget that intimacy is more than sex.

You have options, but it may take some time to find the one that will revive your libido. In the meantime, be patient and spend some time connecting outside the bedroom. It’ll be easier for your brain and heart to be interested in sex if you do, and that could naturally peak your libido.

This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.

04-19-2017 - 11:50 PM


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