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Feeling Frisky During Hysterectomy Recovery? 6 Ways to Cool Off Quick!

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Feeling Frisky During Hysterectomy Recovering? I'm recovering from my hysterectomy and have been experiencing a surge in libido. What can I do about it?

It doesn’t seem fair. Your doctor has told you no intercourse for the next several weeks, but all the hormonal changes going on since your hysterectomy has your libido surging. It’s frustrating.

You need some way to get your mind off sex. If not, you may do something you’ll regret – and that could set your recovery back a good while.

To help you out, here are 6 tips to help cool you off until your doctor gives you the ok for intimacy.

1. Read about the Risks

If you want to put on damper on your desire for intimacy, try reading some articles about what can happen if your vaginal cuff tears, medically known as vaginal dehiscence. Knowing about the possible pain, bleeding, and bowels falling out will not leave you feeling very romantic.

You can also read the Intimacy after Hysterectomy | The Wait article to learn why waiting is so important. The Post Hysterectomy Intimacy Checkpoint also has some helpful information about intercourse after hysterectomy.

2. Check With Your Doctor

Give your doctor a call. Tell him you are want to engage in sexual activities even though he hasn’t cleared you. Better yet, go see him face to face. His comments are likely to drastically damper any feelings of friskiness you may be having. Or, he may give you permission for some outercourse, but be sure to stick with the limitations he gives.

3. Distract Yourself

Focusing on sex right now is not going to help, so distract yourself. Put away the romantic novels and movies. Hide your sexy gowns and underclothes and stick to boring nightwear and granny panties. Call your grandma or great-aunt Martha any time you start feeling that stirring deep inside. Pet your cat, feed your fish, or do a cross-word puzzle. Do anything that’s unromantic and far from sexy. And close your eyes – if you don’t see him, you may be better able to control your desires.

4. Leave

Don’t stay home with temptation. Instead, take a walk outside in the sunshine in full view of neighbors. Sleep in a different room. Go for a ride in the car – have some one drive you if you haven’t been released to drive – but don’t stop anywhere along the way for a hug and a kiss. Get away from the one who is stirring the embers of your desire, or make sure you are only together in a very public place until you cool down. Go somewhere completely unromantic to let you refocus.

5. Re-channel Your Feelings

If you’re thinking of romance, put your thoughts to work. Rather than act on your feelings right now, use your energy to start making some plans for the day or weekend your doctor releases you for intimacy. Spend some time deciding on either a date night or all out weekend getaway. Use up your emotions by planning out every single detail – right down to date, time, clothes, and more.

6. Take a Cool Shower

It’s a bit cliche, but it could help. If you’re feeling chilly, you might not feel as romantic. Don’t linger, but give yourself some time to cool off.

This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.

05-22-2017 - 10:32 AM


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