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Romance Your Way to a Good Night’s Sleep During Menopause

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Romance Your Way to a Good Night’s Sleep During MenopauseWith menopause can come sleeping issues that may have you longing for the intimacy of your bedroom. But that desire is not for anything romantic or exciting. Instead, you want your bed so you can try to get the sleep that’s been alluding you and leaving you tired. The last thing you want to do is get frisky.

Surprisingly, romance and intimacy could help you get some sleep. Sounds ironic, but it’s true. So spice up your bedtime routine with these 7 suggestions and see how intimacy and sleep improve for you.

Set the mood.

Replace some of your bedroom lights with candles – real or electric. When it’s time to turn in, use those lights to set the mood and help you feel more romantic even while following your regular bedtime routine. As a bonus, the less light the better quality of sleep as the glow from lights can disrupt your sleep cycle.

Put away the gadgets.

Instead of focusing on your phone, tablet, TV, or other gadget, turn to each other. Your bedroom should be for only two things – sleeping and sex. Ironically, the more sleep you get, the more desire you can have for sex. And the more sex in which you engage, the better able you may be to sleep. It’s a win-win situation. So if you’re having trouble sleeping, put away the gadgets; instead, reach for your partner to instigate some intimacy. It’s worth it in so many ways.

Skip the jammies.

Start sleeping naked. It’s good for both of you. It can initiate intercourse and may lead to morning sex, too. Even if all you do is cuddle, the skin to skin contact can trigger the release of oxytocin, a reward hormone. It can help you feel good about yourself and more connected to your partner. It can also lower cortisol, a stress hormone, letting you relax and fall asleep. As a bonus, it can also minimize some night sweats which may be waking you up at night.

Touch, touch, touch.

Whether or not cuddling leads to intercourse, it's an important part of intimacy. It lets you connect with your partner, triggers the release of oxytocin, decreases stress, and promotes sleep. You can also benefit from his and her massages. They can be solely for relaxation which can let you sleep, or you can make them a very sensual activity that can lead to sexual activity and then sleep.

Be intimate on a regular basis.

Intimacy can take many forms. It does not have to involve penetrative sex. It can cuddling or it can be anything in between. The details are not important; it just needs to be something that's comfortable for both of you and needs to occur on a regular basis.

Don’t forget to say, “I love you.”

In a long term relationship, sometimes too much is taken for granted. Make it a habit to take time to tell each other what you love and appreciate about the other. That can allow you to connect more intimately and may spark embers of romance. Even if you’ve said it before, saying. “I love you,” with feeling needs to be a regular part of your relationship.

Have sex.

It doesn’t always have to be a firework producing, extra exciting, all night long event. Even a quick session can trigger a chemical reaction that leaves you feeling more relaxed, less stressed, and more connected to your partner, all of which can help you pass into the land of slumber.

This content was written by staff of HysterSisters.com by non-medical professionals based on discussions, resources and input from other patients for the purpose of patient-to-patient support.

02-24-2018 - 10:58 AM


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