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In the beginning... 10-02-2011 - 12:08 PM
Hello, my name is barren. I'm a 39 year old, African American woman, with an adult son and unmarried. I was made aware that I have uterine fibroids in 2009 during a routine Gyn visit. I can remember leaving having mixed feelings. I didn't know what fibroids were and I've always been healthy. She told me, it was common among African American women and if they don't bother me, then there was nothing I needed to do.

I wanted to know more about these things growing inside me, so my research began. I bought a book called, Healing Fibroids, A Doctor's Guide to a Natural Cure, by Allan Warshowsky, MD. I'm not against traditional medicine; however, I'm a firm believer of mind or matter and wanted to see what I could do naturally to rid myself of these things. Needless to say, I haven't done much, naturally. Up until now, I didn't have any problems, my cycles were normal. Since I can remember I've always had cramps except when I was taking birth control, which I stopped taking around 27-28. Late 2010, my cycle became more irregular, I was bleeding every 18-21 days and it was heavier, but nothing like the stories I've read her.

**fast forward**

In July during my yearly Gyn visit I was told I should consider having a hysterectomy due to the size of my fibroids. My Gyn gasping during my pelvic exam! Rewind a few weeks prior, when I met with my primary care doctor for my yearly physical, as we went through my medical history, I told her about the fibroid dx, a few years back. Her response, why don't you have a hysterectomy, the uterus is nothing but a body bag anyway. I was appalled and said to her, I'm 38, why would I do that?. I went on to mention how I was considering a UFE. She was clueless about what it was. I mean, she is a PCP and not a Gyn.

Ok, so back to my visit at the Gyn....
After the pelvic exam, I got dressed and we discussed my options. She basically, said a hysterectomy may be unavoidable because from what she felt, I had the uterus the size of a 20 week old pregnant woman. I cried! NO, NO, NO! I'm young, healthy and hysterectomies are barbaric. These were my thoughts...

I was asked to return in a few days to meet with the Surgeon. I did, when I walked into the exam room, it was prepped for a biopsy. There was no way I was having that done, I heard the pain is horrific and I am not one to handle pain. I'd rather die! As soon as the Surgeon walked in, I told her she could forget about that LOL Not to mention, she said it was more of a pre caution then anything. We'll I'll take my chances...

Then options were discussed, I wanted 6 months to try a more natural approach. She didn't agree and said I needed to do something now because I was anemic, which was her primary concern. She didn't agree that bleeding through a super tampon, (I backed it up with a pad) every two hours was nothing. I tell you, I tried everything to down play my symptoms, LOL.

Ok, what about the UFE? I asked. She didn't care what I wanted to do but asked that I do something. After discussing it further I told her I would make an appointment for the UFE but if I wasn't a candidate, I would go ahead with the hysterectomy. Before leaving I scheduled the appointment for the hysterectomy anyway. For 9/23/11...

I wont go in to detail about the UFE visit, but I wasn't an ideal candidate because of the size of my fibroids. There were too many and too big, there was only a 30% chance it would help me. Initially, i was told I was, so I canceled the hysterectomy. It wasn't until after the MRI that I was told it was a no go. I went back to the Surgeon and told her that I would go through with it and rescheduled the surgery for 10/7/11. Over the next few weeks, I would cry and cry and cry.

In July 2011, I joined HysterSisters. I think God for it being the platform for so many woman having the same issues and being the place to able to express it. Honestly, it wasn't family or friends that helped me come to terms with my decision, yet it was this site! I've never been comfortable expressing myself on the internet but I feel free here.

To be continued...

TangoRomeo said at 10-02-2011 - 06:00 PM
Wow! I'm glad you joined HysterSisters It's nice to get to know more about the people behind the screen names. I look forward to reading more from you!


divastar1874 said at 10-03-2011 - 12:20 AM
Ok so how much is a subscription to YOUR blog?! LOL....

A body bag? Oh honey you did much better than I would have! Cause sista girl woulda snapped! But He knows who can handle what, when and where! I am very glad to get to know you better and share your journey with you!


machchic said at 10-03-2011 - 11:35 AM
It is nice to read your journey, I wish I would have started one of these. Maybe I still can. We r all here for u!





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