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Please help justify what I'm feeling..... Please help justify what I'm feeling.....

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Unread 02-08-2002, 09:10 PM
Please help justify what I'm feeling.....

Hello! I thank you all for everything I have read so far. I have been reading for a month or so. All of you women are so brave it's incredible. I have a TVH scheduled for 3/4/02. I'm scared and I think I'm starting to talk myself out of it. My Doc told me I needed a Hysterectomy 3 years ago after my last Laporoscopy. I have had a total of 3 laps in the past years. The first a cyst the size of a grapefruit. Luckily it had been drained. I've had 3 children, 2 C-sec and 1 VBAC. I had a Lap 3 years ago. Doc found endo and zapped it. I have been suffering from Pelvic Congestion Syndrome and a tilted Uterus. I also had pre-cancerous cells on my cervix about a year ago. I had the Leep procedure and all paps have been ok. Making Love hurts. I hurts to walk. My lower back is so sore and aches all of the time. My left hip (hurting ovary side) hurts very much. When I get up to walk, it takes me about 5 - 10 steps before I can gain a normal sense of walking ability. When I ovulated this month I could not even function. I got very sick to my stomach and became very bloated! I'm even feeling a burning pain on one my left side. I felt as if my insides were going to fall out. I suppose what I'm asking is.....Am I feeling things that justify a Hysterectomy? I have a very high tolerance to pain and at this point I don't want to seem like a hypochondriac!

Please help and God Bless!

Tracy K.
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Unread 02-08-2002, 09:15 PM
Hi Tracy

Sweety if ever someone needed relief it is you. I didn't have near as much wrong with me and I ran to my DR when I couldn't stand it any more. Somewhere a hyst got to be a bad thing unless it was an emergency. You are a person and if it was any thing else a DR would fix that so why not a hyst. Talk to your DR and get some relief honey you deserve it. God Bless and keep us posted on how you are doing.
Unread 02-08-2002, 09:21 PM
Please help justify what I'm feeling.....

Hi Tracy! Glad you joined us! I would definitely talk to your doctor about the pain you are having. NO, you are not a hypochondriac! Better to let him/her know so it can be checked out. Let us know what you find out...


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Unread 02-09-2002, 04:26 AM
In the same boat

I have ALL of the same symptoms as you only mine is on the right side. I was going to a DR for 3 years who kept telling me nothing was wrong with me it was just my hormones (even though I had a cyst the size of a grapfruit removed when I wa 18) After 3 years of begging her to do something I switched DR. I had my first appointment with the new DR on Jan 9, an ultrasound on the 25th and on the 29th my DR scheduled a TAH/BSO for Feb 18th. Only you can decide when you've had enough but I have to say I'm really ready. I never had actual suicide thoughts but there were times when I wondered if life was really worth it because 3 weeks out of every month I hurt so much and if my original DR was right and nothing was wrong then did that mean I would have to live this way for the rest of my life!? My new DR is great and sasy she wishes I had changed DR years ago that all of my pain was needless and is NOT normal. You don't have to hurt just because you're a woman. Isn't that great news!
Unread 02-09-2002, 04:30 AM
Please help justify what I'm feeling.....

Hi Tracy,

I wonder why it is that we women have to justify having this surgery.

It sounds as if you are in much more pain than I was when I had my TVH in Sept 00. I had severe cramping during my monthly and some right sided pain in between,but nowhere near the constant pain that it sounds as if you are having.

I am now scheduled for a BSO on 2/11 and I'm nervous but by reading all of these ladies posts, I know that it will be ok.

Please do what is best for you.

God Bless
Unread 02-09-2002, 05:28 AM
7 weeks post here...

The one thing that truly amazes me is all the symptoms we can experience from a bad uterus! I had many of the syptoms u mentioned pre op. The good news is that at 7 weeks post op all of those symtoms are now gone! Felling like a new woman altho I still can't do a flip like my little buddy over there Only u can decide when u have had enough. As for thinking of cancelling, I would bet that almost all of us had that as a fleeting thought at least. Keep reading and reading and gathering all the info u can. The most important thing is that u find what u think will work for u and go with it. Everyone is diff so in that sense all u read here may not apply to u but modify it to fit your needs and u will do great. Stop in chat and talk awhile, the ladies there are a great source of both info and support.
Unread 02-09-2002, 07:27 AM
Please help justify what I'm feeling.....

My goodness! What a welcome I have gotten this morning. Thank you all so very much for responding. I still do have a million more questions, but you have helped me so much justifying my feelings about this whole TVH. Currently my Doc wants to take the Uterus and the Cervix. She'll leave the ovaries if they are ok. I have a feeling the left one is not ok. I keep on having a burning sensation. My Mother told me it could be internal bleeding. Has anyone experienced this?

Thank you and God Bless you all!!!

Unread 02-09-2002, 07:53 AM
Please help justify what I'm feeling.....

Pain is a very motivating factor. It sounds like you have also tried alternatives to surgery. I would ask questions and if you are not happy with the answers ask some more. Ask what your alternatives are. Ask yourself if you can continue living as you are. Its such a personal choice with no changing you're mind after the fact. Postpone your surgery if you feel you need more time. Research your condition(s) on the internet and talk to those who have been in the same situation. Did surgery improve their life or did it create new problems. Have you had a 2nd opinion? What about a 3rd or 4th? Best of luck in whatever you decide.

Unread 02-09-2002, 09:58 AM
Please help justify what I'm feeling.....

Only you can decide when the time is right to have surgery, but reading your description of all the pain and troubles you've been having, I would say you have more than enough for surgery to be a good option.

I won't go into the boring details of all the problems I've had for the past eight years, but I also kept pushing myself through the pain, telling myself that as long as I was walking around upright and functioning I was okay, talking myself out of it - it's amazing how conditioned we women are to just keep going and going and going - like the Energizer bunny. Things got totally out of control over the last year, and now I am (finally) going into the clinic on Monday to fill out all my pre-op paperwork and talk to one of the docs again. Woo hoo!! This must mean I'll have a date soon. Whew. All I know right now is I will be having a SAH unless they find something else once they get in there.

BUT - this is the weird thing - I'm STILL having those thoughts, you know the ones that creep in, asking myself 'do I really want to do this? have I tried everything? can I just live with it?' Then I think about my daughter, and I feel like I'm leaving her in the dust somehow, the only one who will be having periods in our house any more. How crazy is THAT? Yet, it is normal to have all kinds of second thoughts and questions. That's something I've learned here at HS.

P.S. I just had to at the reference to 'a bad uterus'. I had a picture in my mind of my uterus with a little machine gun and one of those outfits the gangsters used to wear in the old movies from the 1930s.
Unread 02-09-2002, 11:53 AM
Please help justify what I'm feeling.....

Oh yeah, sounds like you are ready. You know, I had more pain on the right side. The doctor thought I had a cyst and it turned out to be severe endo. I had all the cramping also. Life is soooooo much better now!

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