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Dumbest thing someone has said to you?!! Dumbest thing someone has said to you?!!

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  #11  
Unread 08-15-2012, 05:21 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

This might be in a different category, but how about the things people "don't" say?

I have told a small circle of friends and the few I knew would be supportive are being so, but some of the others simply have not mentioned it, or have dismissed it.

I know people have a lot going on in their own lives, but I feel hurt by the reactions (or non-reactions) of some people in my life.

This sounds so "high school" (and I am 48!) but I "slipped" on Facebook last night mentioning that I was having surgery and would be on medical leave (I did this on someone else's post, not on my page, but still - - we have a ton of mutual friends) and nobody asked me what was going on...reached out...etc....

Hurtful.

But I guess I am highly aggitated right now to begin with. Maybe it's all in my head.
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  #12  
Unread 08-15-2012, 05:36 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

No, it's not in your head. People can be clueless. Before my surgery, a co-worker told me she had endometriosis(which was why I was having this) and that SHE was fine and I needed to quit being a wuss. I was being a baby so she had no sympathy for me. Well, needless to say I very rarely talked to her after that. Every time I had a problem, and I had some, she just shook her head and would mutter, "baby, wuss, etc." so that was my dumb remarks
  #13  
Unread 08-15-2012, 05:37 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

I think that qualifies. I feel like nobody wants to hear about me having surgery AGAIN, even though if they'd ask they'd know that the surgery last year is what they do to try to avoid hysterectomy, so many people my age who are having a hysterectomy had surgery relatively recently. I just today posted something mentioning surgery on facebook and nobody is responding.
  #14  
Unread 08-15-2012, 05:49 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

Glad I am not alone and you guys understand...I thought I was being hypersensitive.

Facebook is my "happy place" and I don't normally post anything negative or super personal there, but I was PUI (posting under the influence ) last night and made mention of my upcoming surgery.

Then....Crickets! Nothing. Nada.

And if one more person tells me "to look on the bright side, at least you don't have cancer" I might just flip a lid.

Ok, caught me at a bad time today. Sorry Sisters!
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Unread 08-15-2012, 06:44 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

I was at work one night talking to a friend, quietly and out of the way, about my upcoming surgery. After mentioning the word hysterectomy I guess the new lady (who didn't know me well at all) chimed in in a shocked tone with "don't you want to have children????" Luckily for her my friend came to my defense before I could say "actually I'm having it done for s#%ts and giggles!" Some people are just unbelievable!
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Unread 08-15-2012, 07:09 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

I had the "Oh like when you get a C-Section thing" a few times. "Also oh wow you are so young why?" No it's not like a c-Section I lost everything but my right ovary. Also yeah I am only thirty one but when you have cysts and painful periods they can't explain I had laparascopy/D&C/hysteroscopy in June only to find a large amount of non cancerous growths in my uterus and another cyst the size of a golf ball removed. People think they know things. Listen to yourself and your doc glad I did. Now recovering from my hysterectomy quite well.
Good Luck
Katie
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Unread 08-15-2012, 08:57 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

It's been about 12 hours since I posed on facebook. Five of my friends/family knew. No answer.

I wonder if anything involving cervix removal feels too sexual to talk about? I never thought that (although I didn't know about the cervix coming out) but perhaps others do. In my case I'm pretty sure it's just my medical history has been crazy for 2 years. I was hospitalized to start a psych med, got out and had a very nasty stomach bug that kept me off work for 3 days and had me on appendicitis watch then some med to kind of reset my GI tract. Soon after that I fell and tore 2 ligaments in my ankle badly enough that I need surgery but have been too busy with gyn stuff. 10 months after than I caught whooping cough b/c I was allergic to the shots and that hurt my trachea and caused asthma. Then there was last year's surgery and that was followed by numerous hospitalizations for psych and lithium toxicity. And now this. So I guess they have some excuse but I did not choose any of those things, did not exaggerate them and fought a good fight against this. So I still deserve some sympathy, surely. Oh well, I'll start a "talk about my hysterectomy" campaign if I have to. Every post "you know, I would love to comment but I'm having a hysterectomy". (Not really!)
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Unread 08-15-2012, 09:02 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

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Originally Posted by menorrhagiaJen View Post
It's been about 12 hours since I posed on facebook. Five of my friends/family knew. No answer.

I wonder if anything involving cervix removal feels too sexual to talk about? I never thought that (although I didn't know about the cervix coming out) but perhaps others do. In my case I'm pretty sure it's just my medical history has been crazy for 2 years. I was hospitalized to start a psych med, got out and had a very nasty stomach bug that kept me off work for 3 days and had me on appendicitis watch then some med to kind of reset my GI tract. Soon after that I fell and tore 2 ligaments in my ankle badly enough that I need surgery but have been too busy with gyn stuff. 10 months after than I caught whooping cough b/c I was allergic to the shots and that hurt my trachea and caused asthma. Then there was last year's surgery and that was followed by numerous hospitalizations for psych and lithium toxicity. And now this. So I guess they have some excuse but I did not choose any of those things, did not exaggerate them and fought a good fight against this. So I still deserve some sympathy, surely. Oh well, I'll start a "talk about my hysterectomy" campaign if I have to. Every post "you know, I would love to comment but I'm having a hysterectomy". (Not really!)
you totally should!! Maybe I will do the same...answer every post and comment that way.
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Unread 08-15-2012, 09:03 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

I also got the it is just like a c-section comments which ticked me right off. And the "you're too young for a hysterectomy". Well when I was bleeding more days than not for 20 years, what would be the magic age that is considered appropriate?
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Unread 08-15-2012, 09:14 PM
Re: So, what's the dumbest thing someone has said to you @ surgery?

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Originally Posted by KakiChi View Post
you totally should!! Maybe I will do the same...answer every post and comment that way.
We could have a competition. Your surgery is only 2 days after mine leaving the TIME factor in place. I didn't bring that part up because I'm also sick of "you're worrying too much when it's still far away". Ok, I'll think about preparation the night before. And I'm living this, the time is flying. Just over 2 weeks for my preop and surgery is 6 days later. I even checked the baseball team's schedule for the night before surgery because the place that gives a discount to my hospital's patients fill up with home games. The time will fly.

Or there's the no mentioning it and returning home demanding to know why nobody even cared you were gone.....like you've told them many times. Appropriate treatment for a princess begs much more from her associates. (Saying that should scare people).

This is why I shouldn't be allowed to be on facebook.
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