Hi sisters
Shawn....I sent you a PM.
Add me to the list. Although dh is really a good guy, he just doesn't "get" the emotional stuff. He is taking the day of surgery off, and is dropping me off at the castle. He then plans to go home and wait for the nurse at the castle to call him when it's over. Then he will probably come back to see me. He has the next day off because he has a committment in the morning, so he'll probably pop in during the afternoon.
After that he's back to work, so I am relying on my mom and dad to be there for me (as always). So, instead of my husband helping me get out of bed and take short walks, it will be my dad. Who will be the one to bring me tea and soup? My mom. Who will hold my hand when I'm sad or scared or crying? Either mom or dad. They are the ones I have learned to depend on.
The other thing that blows my mind right now, is that you'd expect your spouse to want to shower you with attention the week before surgery. A backrub sure would be nice, instead of him saying ...well did you take your pain meds? when I say I'm hurting. Some sort of closeness or intimacy (without it being sexual) would be nice too.
Maybe as a woman, I expect too much. I am much more concerned about my emotional needs than the physical. I'm feeling rather lost at the moment in this regard.
Tam
My dh is being a schmuck!
