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I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

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Unread 02-26-2021, 02:43 PM
I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

Hey! I知 new here but I致e been thinking for a while to have an hysterectomy or atleast talk to my doctor and question about it. I致e had the most awful periods long since I can remember and even had cysts grow on my ovaries. I was recently diagnosed with PCOS. My periods are awful and I致e tried medication high pain killers the doctors prescribed but don稚 work. I致e tried multiple birth control aswell. I want to ask the doctor if it痴 possible for me to do that. Do you think that痴 wise? I致e exhausted every other option. (And I don稚 want kids in the future)
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Unread 03-02-2021, 06:20 PM
Re: I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

Hello! I think it is definitely possible for you to get a hysterectomy, but you'll need to find a good doctor who will listen to you and approve it.

I'm 3 weeks post-op, and my I got the surgery at 29 years old. Doctors are definitely more hesitant to sterilize young patients. Here's what I did:

1. Make a list of ALL of your symptoms, and how it impacts your life. Don't try to minimize or gloss over them! With the pain, give it a rating on a scale of 1-10, and discuss any related effects it has - for example, my pain was so bad I couldn't walk and was throwing up. List any other symptoms, too - blood clots, excessively heavy bleeding, anemia from blood loss, migraines.
2. Make a list of all the pain pills you've been on, and how effective/not effective they are.
3. Make a list of all the birth control you've been on, what the side effects are, and why they haven't worked for you.
4. Write out why you don't want other surgical or non-surgical options. For example, a hysterectomy is the only procedure guaranteed to stop your periods. I had an endometrial ablation suggested to me, and i mentioned that they don't get rid of your period, and sometimes don't work and you need to get additional surgeries.
5. When you have an appointment with the doctor, try to dress "older" - polished appearance, nicer clothes, etc. You want the doctor to see you as a responsible adult making her own medical decisions, not some scruffy kid who doesn't understand the impact of a hysterectomy.

And then have some talking points to bring up. If you're set on not having biological kids, say that, and explain your thought process if they press you. A good thing to say if they question how serious you are about not giving birth is that a 15-year-old can choose to have and raise a baby, which is arguably just as life-changing, and you should be able to make your own reproductive decisions. I'm gay and was adopted and I'm set on wanting to adopt, so I brought that up, too.

Good luck! There's definitely more hoops to jump through when you're younger, but if you find a good doctor, you can make it happen.
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Unread 03-02-2021, 08:43 PM
Re: I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

Getting a second medical opinion is a very good idea. There may be something going on that your regular doctor didn't pick up on, for one thing, that can be treated less invasively.

There are women who regret not having children later on, and that's definitely a consideration for you. Life doesn't always go the way you expect. But if the tradeoff to preserving the possibility of carrying a child is a life of pain, you have the right to choose to forego that pain. It's not your duty to suffer.

I think ElectricHarp has some great advice, very logistical and strategic. Beyond justifying your decision to a doctor who is afraid of being sued later, just going through the process of documenting your situation might make your path much clearer for yourself, especially if you've been living through horrible cycles and then trying to forget them.
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Unread 03-03-2021, 08:38 AM
Re: I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

Hello and welcome,

I too am so sorry you are faced with such difficult decisions.

Here is a link to an article you may find helpful:
Living with PCOS

Please seek several opinions so that you are aware of all your options. Ideally, choosing the procedure/option that is the least invasive. Unfortunately, any surgery carries risks so please do as much research as you can. Retaining your ovaries offers your body additional bone, brain and heart health, which is why you and your medical team need to weigh the pros and cons of surgery.


Best of luck on your journey. We are here for you no matter what you decide.

Marcia

PS - here is a thread on a member with a similar medical history who is young and contemplating surgery as well:

https://www.hystersisters.com/vb2/sh...d.php?t=829047

Good luck to you all ❤️
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Unread 03-03-2021, 11:43 AM
Re: I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

Please go to an ob/gyn for final diagnoses. You may have more than PCOS. I know a young woman with PCOS and she was put on hormones and exercise therapy. FYI: Exericse releases certain hormones that helps with pain. It took a few months but now she is happy and has no pain. Of course, it will vary with each patient, but it seemed to work for her and she is only 17.
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Unread 03-03-2021, 04:11 PM
I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

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Originally Posted by ElectricHarp View Post
Hello! I think it is definitely possible for you to get a hysterectomy, but you'll need to find a good doctor who will listen to you and approve it.

I'm 3 weeks post-op, and my I got the surgery at 29 years old. Doctors are definitely more hesitant to sterilize young patients. Here's what I did:

1. Make a list of ALL of your symptoms, and how it impacts your life. Don't try to minimize or gloss over them! With the pain, give it a rating on a scale of 1-10, and discuss any related effects it has - for example, my pain was so bad I couldn't walk and was throwing up. List any other symptoms, too - blood clots, excessively heavy bleeding, anemia from blood loss, migraines.
2. Make a list of all the pain pills you've been on, and how effective/not effective they are.
3. Make a list of all the birth control you've been on, what the side effects are, and why they haven't worked for you.
4. Write out why you don't want other surgical or non-surgical options. For example, a hysterectomy is the only procedure guaranteed to stop your periods. I had an endometrial ablation suggested to me, and i mentioned that they don't get rid of your period, and sometimes don't work and you need to get additional surgeries.
5. When you have an appointment with the doctor, try to dress "older" - polished appearance, nicer clothes, etc. You want the doctor to see you as a responsible adult making her own medical decisions, not some scruffy kid who doesn't understand the impact of a hysterectomy.

And then have some talking points to bring up. If you're set on not having biological kids, say that, and explain your thought process if they press you. A good thing to say if they question how serious you are about not giving birth is that a 15-year-old can choose to have and raise a baby, which is arguably just as life-changing, and you should be able to make your own reproductive decisions. I'm gay and was adopted and I'm set on wanting to adopt, so I brought that up, too.

Good luck! There's definitely more hoops to jump through when you're younger, but if you find a good doctor, you can make it happen.
This helps SO MUCH ITS UNREAL. but like how did you go about saying it like introducing the topic. Did you just go ahead and say I was considering an hysterectomy? How did you word it
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Unread 03-03-2021, 05:47 PM
I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

I was 35 last year when I got my hysterectomy and even then 2 doctors were against surgery saying I'd change my mind about not wanting kids.

What helped me is obviously getting a third opinion, but I documented everything like someone already mentioned, and I printed out all my lab work showing that every month my hemoglobin levels were going lower and lower, which kept me anemic and sick for a long time. I mentioned all the times I ended up in the ER, urgent care, and missed work because of my period.

I also mentioned to my doctor that I had ended relationships in the past because they wanted kids and I didn't (which is true) and my therapist wrote me a letter that stated we had thoroughly discussed my desire to not have children.

I wish you the best! In the meantime, I'd like to recommend some herbal supplements that helped me a lot while I waited for my surgery. They helped with a lot of the symptoms I was suffering with. They're called Brazen supplements. Hopefully they'll help you too!
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Unread 03-03-2021, 06:48 PM
I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

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Originally Posted by GuinevereBarlow View Post
This helps SO MUCH ITS UNREAL. but like how did you go about saying it like introducing the topic. Did you just go ahead and say I was considering an hysterectomy? How did you word it
I had my yearly check-up in October, and when the doctor asked about my periods I told her about the pain and asked if I could pursue surgical options. She referred me to a gynecological surgeon.

My full time line is:
Oct 13 2020 - appointment with PCP, referred to gynecological surgeon
Nov 30 2020 - consultation with obgyn. I actually saw a nurse practitioner, who can't approve surgeries, but scheduled me to speak with the surgeon and get an ultrasound
Dec 10 2020 - ultrasound, discovered 2 cysts on one of my ovaries
Dec 17 2020 - telemedicine visit with surgeon. She went over all the options and risks. She said she wanted to monitor my cysts and verify whether my insurance needed a biopsy to cover surgery
Jan 19 2021 - second ultrasound, more cysts discovered and one had grown bigger
Jan 20 2021 - follow up visit with surgeon. My insurance doesn't require a biopsy! She scheduled me for Feb 8

When she said she could get me in as early as 2.5 weeks, I was so... elated and excited and trying not to grin like a loon. Recovery is a process, but maaan I'm grateful.

You might not need as many appointments. I didn't have a diagnosis, but endometriosis was discovered at the time of the surgery. Since you're already diagnosed with PCOS, that's hopefully one less diagnostic hurdle to jump.


I don't think I can post links yet, but if you Google "sterilization binder" you should find a site made by a woman who got sterilized at a younger age. She's very thorough!
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Unread 03-04-2021, 12:02 AM
Re: I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy

Bear in mind that hysterectomy does not address the underlying cause of PCOS. Also, hysterectomy is an extremely invasive surgery. Recovery can take months, and complications can persist for the rest of your life. These can include mistakes during surgery, such as nerves or blood vessels being cut, loss of sensation, nerve pressure, and lingering pain. Now that I am on the other side of it, I would never recommend hysterectomy unless it was the last possible resort.

Regarding not wanting children, it is possible that this can change. If I had it to do over, I would have addressed the root cause of my female problems in order to leave my options open. I swore up and down I didn't want children and never would. I had a hyst at age 34, and developed an intense urge to have children at age 37. The regrets are very painful and very real, and I feel them every day.

In your situation, I recommend looking up an herb called vitex, aka chaste tree berry. There is an article about it on a website called wellnessmama. Vitex has historically been used to address a number of different ailments that women face. I have recommended it to my siblings, both of whom suffer from PCOS, and both have experienced marked improvement. While I am post-hyst, I use it as well, and find it helpful. It can take a few months to take full effect, although some women feel a difference within days.

Please give yourself a chance to avoid surgery. You're so young, and hysterectomy is a drastic step that may not be necessary.
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Unread 03-04-2021, 04:10 AM
I知 20 and thinking of an hysterectomy


If you do not want children, that is your decision, and it should be respected. Our society glorifies motherhood to the point where those of us who have decided that we don't want children are routinely pressured to reconsider, even when serious medical issues have contributed to that decision, but if you've done your research, and if you can present the facts to support your decision, then your doctor should respect that. Regarding your doctor's visit, as a person with a disability, I always go the extra mile to ensure that I'm regarded as a mature, intelligent adult, so in addition to the above, I'd like to offer a few more tips for your doctor's visit: shower, wash your hair, wash your face, and put on deodorant before your appointment; if pandemic lockdowns have turned your hair into a long, shaggy mess, simply brushing it and putting it up can create a more polished look - my go-to style is a modified French twist secured with a clip from the dollar store; make sure your clothes are clean, pressed, and free of any strong odours, stains, holes, missing buttons, or broken zippers; for your mask, choose a plain neutral colour or a subtle print, because neon brights and bold florals can really detract from your image; mute your cellphone and leave it in your purse during your appointment. Best wishes for your doctor's visit, and for whatever you decide!
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