I just wanted to let you know that I fully understand. I am 27 now, had a LAVH/BSO in Jan (was 26 then). I have 2 children and my husband had already had a vasectomy, so that was not a problem. You sound just like me. I had a ruptured cyst about 6 yrs ago (so I was 20 then), and like you almost bled to death.
A month later I had another cyst (from same ovary) drained because it had grown large and they were worried it might rupture. All was okay for the last 6 years except for pain that started out not much but it got to the point that I could not bear intercouse because it hurt soooooo much.
The doctor did every test imaginable because they didn't think it was my ovaries. (Couldn't feel anything w/pelvic exam) But I told them I knew it was. After 3 months of tests, they finally did an ultrasound. It showed a cyst the size of an orange on my left ovary (not the one previously operated on twice). They drained and removed it along with a small section of the ovary. They also found that I had fibroid tumors in my uterus.
Once I "healed" from the surgery, I continued to have pain. We tried many things, and like you was worried that my age would affect a hysterectomy. The doctor I went to said he would recommend a hyst and that I should have both the ovaries removed since I had the problems with very large cysts and constant pain. I was shocked! The other doctors in the practice would not have recommended (I asked around), so I was very glad to have this one!
I had my surgery in Jan and have been taking HRT (premarin 1.25) since 2 days after my surgery. I have done extremely well. I was overweight before the hyst and have lost 40 lbs by cutting back on calories and fat and exercising (which I couldn't do before because I hurt so bad and was always tired)
I will pray that you find a doctor that will listen to you. The only difference with us is that I already had children. That is a biggie for them, but there are lots of other alternatives. I do want to tell you that even though I didn't want any more children before the surgery, I have had some "depression" about it afterwards. I was the same way when my husband had his vasectomy, but I feel more "emotional" (hormones) about it this time. Hopefully you will do just fine and find a great doctor who will listen to you instead of trying to make decisions for you!
Please write me if you would like to talk more. I would love to try to support you or help you in any way! (bbmarcum@aol.com)
Keep your head up!
BeccaM