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Tips to prepare DH? Tips to prepare DH?

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Unread 04-15-2004, 08:58 AM
Tips to prepare DH?

Ok girls, I've read about the meltdowns and stuff after coming home from the castle. Does anyone have any tips on stuff I can do before I head to the castle so when I come home my DH isn't overworking himself around the house? We have no children just three large dogs. I would love to avoid a meltdown if possible, I have had enough of those already and haven't even had the surgery.

I would love some tips if you have them to make my recoupe and his work around the home while I'm recouping go as smooth as possible.

Any suggestions?

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Unread 04-15-2004, 09:01 AM
Tips to prepare DH?

I plan on cleaning the house from top to bottom "my way"... that way my DH doesn't have to worry about deep cleaning, he can just do maintence house work while I'm down and out. I'm also going to freeze dinners ahead of time, so he can just heat up and serve for the family.

Any other suggestions would be great for me too!!

Unread 04-15-2004, 09:04 AM
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I think the best thing my husband did was to read posts on this site ! It really sunk in that it was going to take a long time for me to really totally heal. He wouldn't let me do anything for the first two weeks when he was home from me. He kept saying, "I read on the site..................." and "You can't do that, remember what it said on HysterSisters!"

Of course, he is the best husband ever anyway, but this helped both of us have an idea of what to expect.

Unread 04-15-2004, 09:05 AM
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I plan on cleaning my house before I go in the hospital too. Not so much to help out DH. He cleans better than I do, but because my mom's coming to help out. Gotta have the house clean for mom. Plus it will keep me busy the day before. I'm not working the day before because of the bowel prep & all the stuff I have to do to get ready. Good time to clean right?
Unread 04-15-2004, 09:11 AM
Tips to prepare DH?


Well, you won't exactly be bedridden when you get home, but you won't be doing housework either! After a couple of weeks you may be up to doing some of the easier tasks, like folding laundry, or unloading the dishwasher, but vaccuuming and/or mopping floors, pushing shopping carts, lifting baskets of laundry, carrying shopping bags - Nope.

Depending on how handy he is in the kitchen: some ladies prepare meals and freeze them so their families only have to pop them in the microwave. Also stocking up on easy to prepare food and frozen dinners. Some also do a major housecleaning before surgery and then just let it go til they're released by their DR's to resume normal activity.

But even when you are released to resume normal activities, do it slowly. Don't start everything at once - add things back a little at time.

You may want to print out FAQ for HysterSisters Family

Best wishes!
Unread 04-15-2004, 09:14 AM
Tips to prepare DH?

All right not laugh too hard at husband and I are both home during the summer ( I am a HS teacher and he is a college professor). We are on a 23 acre farm...He is a neat freak and by the time June arrives my house is in shambles..I usually spend the first two weeks after school is over doing a massive reorganization and clean-up.....this makes DH very happy...Well my last day of school is Friday, June 11 and my surgery is Monday, June 14..I am having a TAH/BSO and plan on taking it quiet easy during my recovery...

I have made a list of weekly jobs to complete so I feel better during my recovery and DH does not huff and puff because of the clutter...I actually went through all my christmas decorations last week and pitched, reorganized ...what a great feeling...I have promised DH that I would clean the basement for the last six years..I do not want him to do it because it is mostly my stuff...cleaned out flower beds over Easter when the weather was great...that will make me and DH happy...also I do not want to feel guilty while I am recovering....This has been an adventure because I am getting the depo lupron injections..I get a bit tired and of luck..just try and keep smiling...Sue
Unread 04-15-2004, 09:23 AM
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In addition to thoroughly cleaning house and cooking and freezing some dinners ahead, I also went on a massive grocery and household items shopping trip. Stocked up on all the stuff we use a lot of regularly. I also tried to get everything I thought I might need when I first got home from the hospital as well as a lot of canned and frozen food that would be easy for dh and dd to prepare.
Since I'm also the family bookkeeper, I made sure and paid as many bills as I could as far ahead as I could. Didn't want dh scrambling the checkbook. LOL I also withdrew a sum of cash to make it easier on dh for running errands.
And most importantly, I sat down and talked with dh......more than once.....and explained everything to him, so he would know and understand what I could and could not do. He and dd have both been great taking care of me and all the things that I can't right now. I feel very lucky to have them.
Unread 04-15-2004, 09:43 AM
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I already did a Spring Cleaning on my house. My brother was home and stayed with me over Easter, so the week before he came, I went through and cleaned house. While he was here, I did not have to lift a finger. He is a Marine, and has this thing with cleaning from the time he wakes up until the time he goes to bed.

Now I am on medical leave, and will be able to keep the house spotless until the BIg Day arrives. 11 more days and counting. Not worring about meals, my DH will be here in the mornings and evenings, he will fix those meals. He is an excellent cook and does not mind, infact he loves to cook for me. All I have to do is feed myself during the day, and I plan to have easy to fix things.

As for the cleaning while I am down, that is my DD's responsiblity, and she has accepted with great pleasure. She is looking forward to taking care of mommy. Although she is a little mad, but trying to understand. She wants to be home here with me the day I come home, but it is planned for her to stay at g-ma's. We feel its best she stay there just incase I run into any problems.

Unread 04-15-2004, 09:57 AM
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I'm going to be "Super Cleaning" the next two weekends trying to get ready to go on April 29th. But I do have to husband is freezing meals for me. He's the cook in my family. He froze a GALLON of soup for like I will be eating soup for a VERY VERY long time. He even went and bought a new gass grill this past weekend. He said that this way my DD can start it AND keep her
Unread 04-15-2004, 10:38 AM
Tips to prepare DH?

hi all,

glad to hear that there are some wonderful dh's out there, mine to. he has always treated me very well, and such a good cook. my problem if you could call it that is he talks like hes going to have me running a foot race at 1 week post op, i don't run any where now, so i'm not sure what he's thinking. but he did say that he would follow the dr orders to the letter. hugs and best wishes to all. debbie

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