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Unread 07-01-2007, 03:53 PM
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Just for the record....a complete hysterectomy is the removal of the uterus and cervix. The removal of ovaries and tubes is a bilateral salpingo oopherectomy. You can have a complete hysterectomy and still retain one or both ovaries.
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Unread 07-02-2007, 02:33 PM
more stupid things people say!

I just got off the phone with a co-worker. I told her how exhausted i was after my one mile (one hour) walk today. She replied, Well what's the matter, are you just out of shape?

(No! I had major surgery just under three short weeks ago!! this is the friend who thinks it is the same as her c-section and therefore 'no big deal'.)

I replied, "No, before my surgery i was up to 35 minutes on the elliptical, 45 minutes on the bike and an hour of swimming in a single workout."

I hate the fact that I even attempted to justify my physical shape (I am overweight) to her but I just couldnt believe she ascribed my exhaustion to pudge rather than an organ amputation! :burning:
Unread 07-02-2007, 02:41 PM
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It is aggravating isn't it. I had to give a very graphic description to my sister the other night when she asked why I was not going to jump in the car and drive to Georgia for a visit while on sick leave.
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Unread 07-02-2007, 02:46 PM
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yes yes! EXACTLY!! It is not a vacation, people, it is called short term disability because i have little or no ability to do things!

Which is really lucky for them because if i felt well enough to do stuff i would be strongly tempted to kick their insensitive hineys down to georgia!!

But it might tear a stitch...
Unread 07-02-2007, 02:54 PM
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One of the things I read on this site was to stay away from work, even if just for a visit, to prevent disillusioning co-workers into believing you're able to return to work and perform your job. In your case, maybe it means not talking to co-workers as well! lol.

But seriously, I understand that c-sections are similar in that they require the abdomen to be opened up which is a big deal, but that's not to say that everyone heals at the same rate or that everyone follows their doctor's orders (for all you know, your co-worker may have overdone it trying to be superwoman which could lead to future health problems down the road). Everyone's situation is unique to them, and while we may share some similarities, there are other factors to consider (age, overall physical health, depth of medical issue, response to surgery, response to anesthesia, etc.) when discussing recovery. Many of us are in the same boat as you - still carrying extra weight despite working out every day, doing cardio and well as free-weight workouts, eating healthy, etc., pre-surgery - and don't appreciate our physical stature being used against us in our recovery.

In your case, the only thing I can suggest is to steer clear of those who make you feel bad about yourself throughout your recovery. Her response to you was in no way helpful nor conducive to better healing, and with friends/co-workers like that, who needs enemies? Do what is right for you, follow your doctor's orders exactly, and allow yourself to heal properly so that you can resume your normal lifestyle without any physical restrictions or limitations.

Wishing you all the best!

-Cheryl, 37, TAH 6/21/07
Unread 07-02-2007, 03:02 PM
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Thank you scrubs! I had mentioned the c-section thing before and heard from several women on this site who had had both saying that the hyster is much more difficult. Not sure why it is being considered as a contest in the first place!
Unread 07-02-2007, 03:21 PM
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I agree with you lala. I got very graphic with the details of the surgery (the joy of being affiliated with the medical field) and it took care of the issue
Unread 07-02-2007, 03:27 PM
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Thank you Lulu! i hate being a 'whiner' -- but if i dont complain, people are, Oh she's fine by now -- oh yeah, cause it's been three whole weeks (a lot longer to me than anyone else!) I knew this operation would change how i saw myself. i just didnt realize it would change how i saw everyone else.
Unread 07-02-2007, 03:34 PM
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I know what you mean - at first I had co-workers knocking down my door to help. Now it is all about work and what is going to be going on when I get back in August.

As far as work goes - one woman I work with (I work for the military in a medical unit) loves to tell folks in the building - see being in shape helps - "she was sliced opened and had organs removed and look at her (X number of days post-op) and she is in better shape than some of you!!!" She is a hoot. That usually stops people from pestering her as to why I am not back to work yet.
Unread 07-02-2007, 03:42 PM
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I've had several people give me the c-section analogy too. My reply to them is that the differance is that during the c-section they are taking out something that NEEDS to come out. Here they are taking out a bunch of my organs.

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