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Unread 04-27-2002, 12:30 PM
Getting very nervous ...

I have 8 days to go til surgery and I find myself getting very nervous and worrying about all of the details. I probably wouldn't be so upset, but my hubby is working long hours 7 days a week between his regular full time job and also working on the house my dad is building nights & weekends. So, I'm pretty much alone most of the time which gives me plenty of time to stew over my worries. He is working these rediculous hours to finish his portion of the building of the house (the hvac work) and get caught up on all of his jobs at his company before he takes off a week for my surgery. I understand completely that he's doing this for me and I certainly haven't complained to him, but I feel pretty lonely most of the time. On top of all that he is already doing, we had a water line bust 2 days ago and flood the basement. He had to handle that on his own too because I wasn't any help with the pain I was going through at the time. I feel so useless and I know for darn sure I'll be pretty useless for several weeks to come. I guess I'm just fed up with the whole situation and it's getting the best of me. Is this normal? Does anyone else feel this way as the date approches?
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Unread 04-27-2002, 02:12 PM
Hi Dee

What you are going through sounds pretty normal to me.

It does get to be an emotional roller coaster as the surgery date gets closer. And yes I think for many of us at that point it seems like we have been dealing with all the "stuff" leading up to our decisions and surgeries for way too long.

Hang in there! Do whatever you can to pamper yourself and DH this coming week. Try to keep busy. This too shall pass. I promise.

My healing time seemed to go pretty quickly too. And from this vantage point it doesn't seem that it all took too long afterall.

You have alot of quality of life to look forward to. Maybe spend some time planning some of the things you can look forward to this summer.

Good luck to you.

Unread 04-27-2002, 02:37 PM
I so understand!!

Hi Sweetie!!

I'm right there with you!! I've been wanting to get things done around the house, but have been hurting so much that I feel useless/worthless. My DH shooes me off to the couch and tells me to rest. He's trying to get things done for me, but they aren't being done the way I expect!!

Just try to HANG ON!! Soon, it will all be over and you'll be on the mend and feeling better than ever!!!!

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Unread 04-27-2002, 06:03 PM
Getting very nervous ...

Hi, Dee -

Sounds perfectly normal to me! When I would get ready for bed, my brain would start whirling with all the things I had to do...or couldn't do that I thought I should do.

And I think I'm hearing some feelings of guilt that your husband has to take on more than his share of things because of all you're going through. I've felt that way, as well, with all I've been going through and will be going through for some time to come. We have to remind ourselves that this is part of marriage, too - in sickness and in health. We'd take on extra work if our husbands needed us to, and they'll do it for us.

Hang in there - before you know it, you'll be in recovery, and telling everyone that the waiting was the hardest part of it all!!

Unread 04-27-2002, 06:28 PM


I loved the reminder about "In Sickness and In Health". Believe it or not, when my DH and I got to that part of our vows, we both giggled. I've always been cursed with tonsalidis and sinus infections and migraine headaches from the very first day we met!! Had my tonsils out two years ago, and now here I go with the hysterectomy. I teased him this morning that maybe one of these years we'll ge to share the 'In Health" part!!! Soon I Hope!!!

D from Ga, Alisa is right, this all part of marriage. I guarantee if your dh is anything like mine, and it sounds like he is (aren't they the best!) it will all be ok, and he will take very good care of you after your surgery, there's just so much for them to do before hand!!

Keep talking to us here on-line, and we'll try to help pass the time with you! I know I need it as my time is fast approaching too!!

's and es and lots of good wishes!!

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