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Unread 04-17-2007, 08:13 PM
How old is everyone?

Isn't this board a wonderful site? I have learned more here than anywhere else, and I don't feel alone because everyone here is going through the same thing. We are all in the same boat here and we can say what we want to say without someone else thinking it's ridiculous. I was hoping my surgery would be early in the morning, but my surgeon only uses the OR in the afternoons.
I don't have any children but I've always been around them. I used to take care of my sister's kids when they were little. Now they are all grown up and I'm taking care of their kids now. I can't imagine being without kids. Especially when they are little because they are so innocent to the world.
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Unread 04-17-2007, 08:30 PM
How old is everyone?

I never wanted kids either, but for some reason, I'm grieving the loss of my reproductive organs---is this normal??? The whole time I was preparing for my surgery I knew what I was about to do, and it didn't bother me, but once it was done, like ten days later it hit me. And it's stupid because I KNOW I don't have the patience for kids and didn't want them, so why all this nonsense now? If ANYONE can help shed some light on this, please email me at [email protected] any helpful advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I'm in turmoil. I have been deeply depressed and am having anxiety about it. Please write if you can help-thanks
Unread 04-17-2007, 09:23 PM
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TC231, you are not alone. I wanted kids but sort or resigned myself to the fact that I couldn't have them because I have not been able to get pregnant and had too many female problems. I thought I was o.k. with it but after the surgery it hit me really hard. I am 3 weeks post op today so it is still really fresh. I think because the surgery makes things so final for us and we no longer have a choice...that might be what makes is so hard. I have heard that woman that are done having their children or are too old still have these feelings. A hysterectomy is a very emotional surgery. I don't understand why I have all the feelings I do now and am not sure I know exactly what to say to you. But please know that you are not alone.
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Unread 04-17-2007, 10:44 PM
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You know, it's like that for the rest of us that never planned to have kids and didn't. Part of the reason I never had kids was because I was so afraid of the pain and morning sickness. The other part was that I never met my Mr. Right that I wanted to have a baby with. But now that my surgery is coming up, and I'm still only 44, I realize how final it is. That even if I decided to try, that there will be no more chances. Does that make any sense? That makes me feel sad. I know that I have to have the surgery, but it's the finalness of it all, and I think it bothers more women than we think, even those that do have children. It's like our choice was taken away and we didn't have a say in it. I looked into all the other options. My only one was to have everything out. I never thought when I was younger that I'd end up with a hysterectomy. It never crossed my mine. My periods were always on time and I never even knew there was a problem until I had a very bad period and almost bled to death. I used up so many pads I can't count them all. And these were the thick overnight ones. But you know what? I think in time, as our bodies heal, so will our attitudes about things and realize we did what we had to do. And remember that you don't have to have a baby come out of your body to be a mother. I know lots of people who have adopted and they treat their children as their own. No difference. Our hormones will need a chance to settle down afterwards, and that will take a while. Just know that I know how you feel.

I wish you the best because I know what you are going through.
Unread 04-18-2007, 10:36 AM
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I have a 7 year old adopted son from South Korea and do feel like I have child of my own! Having my hysterectomy this Friday will only make me feel so much better so I can play baseball with him in the backyard pain free! I can't wait!!
Unread 04-19-2007, 11:01 PM
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I know exactly how you feel. I had my hyster because I am a breast cancer survivor and they just wanted it all out of me. I have 3 kids and was done before the cancer. After the chemo, I was even more done because of all of the poisions and other reasons too. It still did not make any difference when I had my hysterectomy, I still had those feelings and once in a while still do. I just turned 40 and sometimes I get a queasy feelign when I see pregnant women. In fact, my younger sister just told us she is pregnant with her second child. I really am happy for her, but I must admit that I have been a little sad and maybe even a bit jealous.

I don't know how much is due to the hormones or, as someone else said, the permanence of it all. I don't have any advice or answers, but I wanted to just say that you are not alone.
Unread 04-20-2007, 10:37 AM
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thank you. I guess it just gets easier with time. I know about seeing pregnant women. Suddenly they are EVERYWHERE. In your face. I don't have kids and never will at least biologically. Realistically I never wanted any, but now that the option is GONE, it really is permanent. Thanks for you the thoughts. I'm glad you are a breast cancer survivor. I had cancer twice now! So I am a survivor too!!! Cheers for us!!! Write to me anytime!!! I appreciate your thoughtfulness, it truly means a lot. This website has been an awesome resource.!!!

Take care and I'll talk to you soon!
Unread 04-20-2007, 06:37 PM
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Thanks for all the replies, I am 27 as it says, and just arrived home today from my Castle stay, It went well and I had lots of compliments on my insicion!!
Good Luck everyone, it wasn't half as bad as I thought it was going to be
Unread 04-20-2007, 10:34 PM
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So glad you are feeling well. Take it easy and do not overdo it no matter how good you think you're feeling...TRUST ME!!! Keep feeling good!!
Unread 04-21-2007, 02:12 PM
How old is everyone?

Thanks!! I know what ya mean. Reality catches you real quick. I am pacing myself and making sure not to do too much. I cant afford to get any adhesions because this was my last surgery ever!!!

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