Do any of your husbands, bf's, or gf's shy away from talking about prep & recovery?

Hi Sisters,
It was a long subject title, and kind of sums up my concern. For the most part I have found women are way more open to talking about hyst.

I know, it's like well duh. We're used to talking about periods with no problem. My s/o has been good for the most part but when I elaborate he clams up. So I go on here and it's wonderful. We have a strained relationship sometimes & I dealing with it & taking care of me, and will address it when I'm better.

He says this site is giving my all these ideas to worry about. I said it's preparing me big time.

Anyway, I know that's kind of 2 topics here. I just kind of venting. I know I'm not alone with you ladies out here. I LOVE THIS SITE!!!

My hubby refuses to talk about it. He has taken two days off to be with me post surgery but he keeps saying i should be good after a few weeks. Its hard cuz this site.is the only.place i can talk about what i am going through.

If they are willing, have them check out misterhystersisters. Great info there for husbands/partners/families. Really helped my partner to understand! I think men feel like we are invincible, we always pull it together no matter how unwell we are feeling- we are superwomen! It can be hard for them to understand that this surgery isn't a walk in the park- its tough and we need time to heal properly and most of all, we need their support to do that.

Yes me too. My DH refused to talk about it also but he has some medical back ground and thinks he knows it all. Since having hysto, I come here for any concerns and just don't discuss it with him. The BIG topic right now is when I am going back to work. I work as a substitute teacher and have the ability to work as needed or basically when I want. So I have decided to work a few days a week going back in January and if its too much, I will just cut back. Fortunately my flexibility relies on the needs of the school district. I reminded him of when he has his vasectomy and how I babied him for 2 months because it was so painful and I had a 3 week old and a 18 month old toddler while taking care of him and his little pain. Reminders are sometimes worth mentioning. The discussion was over.
I want him to come with me for my first follow up on Friday to ask doctor any questions and to drive me but he doesn't want to and doesn't want to ask for the hour time off.. Go figure! So yes I am dealing with an irrational retired medic who knows everything....

My hubby would never read the website. He seriously acts like i am just getting wisdom teeth removed or something. Surgery is wed and i think he really believes i will be good to resume life by monday

My hubby is seriously the best. Has been waiting on me hand and foot. But he is always the best. Very caring and sensitive. Good reminder for me about just how awesome he really is, as I have a tendency to take him for granted.

My bf is being borderline selfish. Although he is being supportive and knows I have to have surgery, and he definitely doesn't want to see me in pain anymore....he's very concerned with himself. How it's going to affect his life, who's going to help him around the house, who's going to watch his kids, even going so far as to make jokes about finding him a "friend" so he's not lonely for 6 weeks.

Estrawser- that is seriously messed up. Instead of making jokes that are in bad taste, he should be more concerned about how its going to affect you. I would not put up with any jokes about finding a "friend" because they arent always just a joke.

I made clear the jokes were way out of line. This is a major part of my life and I have enough fears and concerns to deal with. I don't need to worry about whether my bf is going to stay beside me thru this.

I completely agree! Good for you standing up to the childish behavior. Just remember your sisters here have your back. I am 12 days ahead of you to the castle but will see you on the other side of this adventure