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Advice on looking after kids post-op
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09-28-2004, 10:50 PM
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Posts: 78
Hysterectomy: October 12th, 2004
Surgery Type: TVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Advice on looking after kids post-op
Hi,
Thank you for these wonderful boards - they are making me so much more positive about my up and coming operation in less than two weeks now.
My concern is when I get home from hospital - how I will cope with the children .. I have a 12 year old dd, 8 year old ds, 3 year old ds and 17 month old ds.
I will have my MIL here to care for the children while I am in hospital and for about 10 days after I get out .. but how have other people coped with little ones .. I am not concerned about the older two but how do I let the 17month old know that mummy won't be able to do much with him. Will I be able to give him a bottle? Change his nappy? etc etc.
Thanks for any advice.
Michelle.
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09-28-2004, 11:15 PM
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Posts: 352
Hysterectomy: July 26th, 2004
Surgery Type: LAVH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Advice on looking after kids post-op
Hi,
I cannot say from hyster experience as my girls are 8 and 9, but you should be able to do some things with your little one. You will just have to modify how you do them. Make sure you explain that your stomach is sore. If he can climb onto the changing table or a bed, you should still be able to change him. Spend time cuddling in bed or on the couch or anyplace where he can climb up or have someone lift him up. NO LIFTING for you.
Kids are usually fairly aware when their mom is not feeling well. Just make sure that you let them know that you love them.
Best wishes,
Judy
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09-29-2004, 06:04 AM
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Posts: 227
Hysterectomy: September 13th, 2004
Surgery Type: TAH/SAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Advice on looking after kids post-op
Hi Michelle! I am 2 weeks post-op, and I too have kids. I don't have little ones (toddlers/babies) though, my youngest is now 6. However, I have a couple of suggestions. While your MIL is there, let her do most of everything for those 10 days. You will need your rest and store up your energy. Thank God for the fact that she will be there for you! Not sure if you are having an abdominal like mine? If you are, you will most definitley not be able to lift the baby. At 17 months, I'm sure he is fairly big, and weighs to much for you to lift. I'm thinking that yes, you could give him his bottle after awhile. You might start training him now to take his bottle at meal times, or even switch over to sippy cup to make it easier for you altogether. Your older children should be able to help you out a lot, but I understand they will be in school most of the day. I would also suggest changing the little one on the floor. Just put down a blanket, and have him lay there while getting changed. Once again, NO lifting him up onto a table or bed to change. If he can climb up on bed by himself, then that would be good too, as you won't have to get up off the floor from changing him. Some things he will have to learn to do independently, but at his age, he should be all about his independence! Let the other kids help you out in the afternoon...take the time to LET them help you. My boys, all of them, have been a tremendous help since DH went back to work on Monday. My oldest is 15, middle is 9, and youngest is 6. Even my 6 year old helps me by getting me things I need, dusting, making his bed, carrying small laundry baskets, etc.
Sorry this is long, but thought it might help you some! Good luck and I'll be praying for you, hon!
Tina
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09-29-2004, 06:31 AM
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Hysterectomy: September 21st, 2004
Surgery Type: SAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Advice on looking after kids post-op
Hi Michelle,
Does your youngest still have his bottles at night? If so, this what is working for me. My son is 12 and a half, so no bottles but every night before he goes to bed, he climbs in to my bed and watches tv with me. He is still cuddly and I am gonna take advantage of that!! He wont be for long, well at least not with me....rofl
I would find enough pillows to protect yourself. One by one at night, at bedtime, have them climb up for half an hour for "mommy time". Your 17 month old will probably be able to climb up, if not one of the older ones can help. They can all take turns laying beside you, talking about their days, and keeping that wonderful bond. Pack pillows around your tummy, and your baby, and just cuddle. Start talking to them now about it, and explain that this is sacred time, no interruptions when this is happening. It will allow the kids to love you, without hurting you. And give them some time alone, which they may feel they miss when you arent up and about. It will reassure your toddler, and your 3 yo, and give you something to look forward to.
As for the rest of it, well I really cant answer. Your MIL will have to do most of it. Absolutely NO LIFTING. I would play a game maybe with the older two, for every pee diaper they change, write it on a paper, and they get XXXXX. For every poopy diaper, of course the prize is much bigger!! If it is a real stinker, then they get some grand prize! You watch how fast that lil baby is cleaned up and smellin purty!! rofl
Take care and good luck....
Kat
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