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2017 - What does an orgasm feel like without a uterus? 2017 2017 - What does an orgasm feel like without a uterus? 2017

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Unread 07-09-2017, 07:09 PM
Question - 2017 - What does an orgasm feel like without a uterus? 2017 2017 - What does an orgasm feel like without a uterus? 2017

Hi! Longtime lurker (this board was heaven sent; my husband found it after my surgery and it was so comforting to find others like me. It was also so useful to read up on stories after having multiple surgeries for adhesions).
I had a partial hysterectomy in 2014 (uterus and cervix, I had an avm in my uterus and was slowly bleeding to death internally, it was an emergency procedure and I had a c-section 11 days prior). I've been married for ten years. Over those ten years, we've made multiple attempts to bring me to orgasm with no success. We've also had multiple surgeries over the ten years (both of us have) so progress has at times been delayed. I also have chronic headaches (like I just constantly have a headache-have had it for 12 years.)
We tried for over an hour the other day for a clitoral orgasm, and based on a few things that happened, we think I might have orgasmed. But if I did, it wasn't the rainbows, worlds exploding situation the few friends I've talked to about it described. It was still awesome, but just in my ladybits area, not a spreading of awesomeness across my body.
It did occur to me though, that there is a big difference between me and my friends-my lack of uterus and cervix (several friends described their uterus's contracting pleasantly).
Ideally, I would just survey everyone I know and ask them what an orgasm feels like for them-but that would probably be pretty awkward. This seems like a safe space though; and you are also missing your uterus's. I also can't exactly search for this on the internet-too much weird stuff pops up. So, if you didn't mind, could you tell me-what does an orgasm feel like for you? What feelings/sensations do you have? And here's the big question-do you feel satisfied/satiated afterwards? I feel like movies and books always portray both the man and woman as satisfied, and as I have the higher sex drive in my relationship, it would be nice to feel satisfied-but after the other night and the possible orgasm, I did not.
If you don't feel comfortable typing it out for the world to see but would share with me personally let me know how we can work that out.
I'd appreciate anyone who is willing to answer-would like to have an idea of what to be looking for next time, and would like to be able to finally claim I've had one-would be a victory for my marriage.
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Unread 07-26-2017, 08:43 PM
Re: What does an orgasm feel like without a uterus?

Hi Kat -

Well, I'm 5 weeks post-op and finally satisfied my curiosity today about my orgasm, I've always had deep orgasms but only with manual stimulation. One of my fears in having a hysterectomy was loss of that deep throbbing sensation with orgasm, and sure enough, that's what happened. Since the uterus is a muscular organ, I assumed it had a role in my orgasms and knew there was potential for a change in quality, thus my dying of curiosity the past 5 weeks. Now it feels more superficial, as you say just around the lady bits. It's still enjoyable, but...That's why I wanted to test it before I have sex, I didn't want to be disappointed while hubby and I were happy to be able to be intimate again!

However, when I described that to a friend, she didn't know what "deep throbbing" I was talking about, so it could be that each woman's orgasm feels different. And so, some may lose sensation with hysterectomy, and for some it may not change. In general, I described my orgasm as an ocean wave...I feel the surge coming (build up), then the crash (spasm), then the wave washes out (lingering, less intense spasm). As for being satisfied, I know with certainty that the more pressure I put on myself to "perform", the less likely or more work it takes to do so.
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Unread 07-28-2017, 03:15 PM
Re: What does an orgasm feel like without a uterus?

Emerald....

I am so sorry this is happening to you. But know you are not alone.

Mine definitely changed, particularly after surgery. It took a long while, but the crashing did come back. Not as frequently as before (so I do think there is a change post surgery)...and if there is a long build up, that definitely helps. But, in some instances, it's more blah. In those cases, I try to remember the bigger picture....but it is absolutely frustrating. I often wonder if more Kegals would help (as our pelvic floor definitely loosens up as we age)....so it might not just be from the surgery.

I think this is one areas doctors definitely under-prepare us for.

Good luck.
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Unread 08-07-2017, 07:20 PM
Re: What does an orgasm feel like without a uterus?

I was actually warned of this when I started researching having a hysterectomy. I know this may sound silly, but I fear I will feel more "pressure to perform" and be put in the spotlight so to speak. "Did you orgasm??" Ugh. I am not looking forward to that.
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Unread 10-16-2021, 07:50 PM
Re: What does an orgasm feel like without a uterus?

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Hi Kat -

Well, I'm 5 weeks post-op and finally satisfied my curiosity today about my orgasm, I've always had deep orgasms but only with manual stimulation. One of my fears in having a hysterectomy was loss of that deep throbbing sensation with orgasm, and sure enough, that's what happened. Since the uterus is a muscular organ, I assumed it had a role in my orgasms and knew there was potential for a change in quality, thus my dying of curiosity the past 5 weeks. Now it feels more superficial, as you say just around the lady bits. It's still enjoyable, but...That's why I wanted to test it before I have sex, I didn't want to be disappointed while hubby and I were happy to be able to be intimate again!

However, when I described that to a friend, she didn't know what "deep throbbing" I was talking about, so it could be that each woman's orgasm feels different. And so, some may lose sensation with hysterectomy, and for some it may not change. In general, I described my orgasm as an ocean wave...I feel the surge coming (build up), then the crash (spasm), then the wave washes out (lingering, less intense spasm). As for being satisfied, I know with certainty that the more pressure I put on myself to "perform", the less likely or more work it takes to do so.
Just had to update that my orgasm came back full force shortly a bit further long in recovery after my "dud" experience, I'm delighted to report. :-)
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