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Unread 05-08-2003, 08:30 PM
Jane, I know what you're going through

I was diagnosed in Feb with cervical adenocarcinoma. My surgery is May 23, so I'm getting there. This has been the longest and shortest waiting period of my life! The pre op tests are currently consuming some of my extra time. I've found a lot of solace in sites like this one. Finding out all I can about my disease, and how it's going to be taken care of. I've also talked about my situation with anyone who will listen. The more informed I am, the easier it is for me to talk about it.
I've also spent a lot of time thinking and praying, making plans for post op. It's what I have to look forward to after the surgery that keeps me going. My friends, my family, my job as an aerobic instructor... all of these thing help me to be strong, and hopeful that everything will work out.
I hope that this helps you, even if it just lets you know that you're not the only one feeling this way. There are a lot of us in the same boat.
Good luck, and God bless.
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Unread 05-10-2003, 02:01 AM
thanks for all the responses

I want to thank everyone for responding to my post on how to act normal while waiting for surgery. When I talk to my friends, they tell me I will do just fine. I know they love me and want me to be ok. I think they really don't want to know. I'm the one who always handles everything and surely I can handle this!

This is a lonely time and I am very thankful for this site. My job requires that I motivate, encourage and uplift over 100 employees, and I am very good at it. I have spoke with my boss about ways to I can cut back some while I am waiting for surgery.

I had a LEEP about 2 weeks ago, and then yesterday I had a cold knife cone. On Monday I will find out if it is more invasive than the LEEP showed. Hopefully, they will also tell me my surgery date.

Thanks again to everyone!
Unread 05-10-2003, 02:00 PM
"acting" normal till surgery date

I think my surgery date came so quickly because my tumor was pretty big. So I'm wondering if doctors schedule the more serious cases sooner. If that is the case, then maybe they think your situation is not as serious as those of many others.

While waiting, I found that being alone was not a good thing for me. If I had a friend over, that was distracting, and even if I cried, I would somehow be OK. But . . . I would just lose it if I was sitting alone in my apartment. I don't know whether you live alone or not, but if you do, try to have friends come over after work. It really helps.

As for acting "normal," I don't think that's a necessity. You feel how you feel. And to me, that is actually normal. Reducing your work schedule somewhat will probably help. I work for myself, which made things easier. If I'd still had my corporate job, I would've had to have taken a leave of absence. The stress of the job just wouldn't have done me any good.

Please let us all know the results of your cold knife cone. We will pray that it won't show anything new. :-)
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Unread 05-10-2003, 06:13 PM
"acting" normal till surgery date

I'm glad you found this site. It will be very helpful to you.
It is a very difficult time to get through. I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer on 3/25 and after two gyn/onc appointments and a second opinion, just had my TAH on 5/7.
I found it helpful to work during this time. My co-workers were very supportive. I'm a nurse, currently working in a non-clinical setting doing telephone triage. I found it helpful to focus on other people and not think about my situation. My colleagues were also helpful as resource persons. It depends on whether or not your work setting is helpful to your well being.
I tried to learn alot about cancer and what to do about it during this time. I also did all of the other things I enjoy doing to focus on LIVING, not just cancer. *punch*
Best wishes to you.
Unread 05-11-2003, 09:50 AM
I understand how you feel

I had more than a month between my dx and my surgery. That was OK with me, as I wanted time to prepare. I wanted to lose a few pounds, build up some muscle, clean my house, train my DH, catch up with work (I work at home) and take a week or more off before surgery. Among other things.

The work thing was the hardest for me. I run a small busniess from my home, and my clients, while sympathetic to my troubles, had work that needed to be done. I also wanted to earn some extra $$$ to tide the business over while I was recovering. So I did not get my week off.

I was stressed, but I was also distracted. I honestly can't tell you which state would have been better if I'd chosen one or the other.
Unread 05-18-2003, 06:58 PM
i'm playing the waiting game too, for the 2nd time!


i'm another that knows the surreal state you're in. i had to wait a month from my dx to surgery and then another week to find out if it had spread. that happens too. after the surgery, you wait for the path report to finalize the dx and see if cancer has spread to the lymphs. it was hell. i occupied my time reading books about healing and the mind and getting inspiration from them and the stories of courage and strength. i also purchased a breathing tape that i listened to and then would practice breathing to calm me. it all helped. this site, however, was the biggest help of all.

i'm now, unfortunately, waiting again... i went for my 6 mth ct scan (4/23) and long story short, there are "neurogenic neoplasms" in the right pelvis. had fine needle biopsy and that came back with no malignancy, however, they need to come out because as the onc. said, you really never know for sure until you get them out and cut them open. evidently, there is a high % of false negatives. my surgery isn't until 6/4. i'm trying my best to act "normal" too. my story is a little more involved than this, but bascially, i completely know how you're feeling.

i'm back on this site for the 1st time in a long time. it does help to have this support.

let us know how the biopsy goes. i'll include you in my prayers as well.

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