support for a friend | HysterSisters
HysterSisters Hysterectomy Support and Information
Advertising Info HysterSisters Hysterectomy Support Tutorial

Go Back   Hysterectomy HysterSisters > Hysterectomy Special Needs > Cancer Concerns - GYN is a massive online community with over 475,000 members and over 5 million posts.

Our community is filled with women who have been through the Hysterectomy experience providing both advice and support from our active members and moderators. is located at 111 Peter St, Toronto, Canada, M5V2H1 and is part of the VerticalScope network of websites.

With free registration, you can ask and answer questions in our HYSTERECTOMY forum community, get our FREE BOOKLET, access Hysterectomy Checkpoints and more.

You are not alone. The HysterSisters are here for you. Join us today!
join HysterSisters for hysterectomy resources and support

support for a friend support for a friend

Thread Tools
Unread 06-06-2003, 09:56 AM
support for a friend

I am 7 weeks post op and doing great I had Tah BSo for borderline ovarian cancer. A couple of weeks ago, a very close friend who was very supportive of me began to have trouble swallowing. To make a long story short he was diagnosed with esophageal cancer already spread to the liver. He is having weekly treatments at Dana Farber, but prognosos is poor. He is only 45 and has everything to live for. He is terribly depressed and already talking about his funeral and death preparations. I just don't know what I can do for him and how best to encourage him.

I feel so fortunate with my diagnosis. I want to do the right things. I'd appreciate any help and suggestions.
Sponsored Links
Unread 06-06-2003, 11:30 AM
support for a friend

Is he researching any alternative treatments? They don't work for everyone, but they have worked for many people. If he's up for it, and wants to try, you could encourage him to research some of those treatments. It might make him feel like he's taking a more active role in his own recovery. I think hearing the words "poor prognosis" would send most people into a depression -- hopefully temporarily.

I know having you care about him and show concern for him means the world. He might have trouble reaching out right now, but if you are a persistent friend and presence, I know it will mean a lot. I get to points where I don't call many people, but I have friends who are persistent about calling me, so that means a lot to me.

As you probably already know, just *doing* things for him -- rather than asking what you can do -- is something that will also be helpful. He might have trouble asking, or saying he needs help. Cook him dinner, take him to a movie, go visit, buy a present.

A friend of mine was married for 13 years to a guy she loved to bits. One day, he was dianosed with stomach cancer that had spread to his bones and lungs. So he lived only six months. She tried to make his last days the best that she could. He smoked MJ to deal with the pain. She took him beautiful places. She researched as much as she could and did what was possible. And she told me that she still considers it a great honor and privilege to have been with him at his death.

Is it Stage IV? What do the doctors say?

Our Free Booklet
What 350,000 Women Know About Hysterectomy: Information, helpful hints as you prepare and recover from hysterectomy.
Answers to your questions

Thread Tools

Forum Jump

Similar Threads
From This Forum From Other Forums
7 Replies, Last Reply 12-21-2007, Started By LynneAnn
3 Replies, Last Reply 03-10-2006, Started By dncs
6 Replies, Last Reply 01-17-2005, Started By dg2901
3 Replies, Last Reply 09-15-2004, Started By Rosalie
5 Replies, Last Reply 07-16-2004, Started By jos
17 Replies, Last Reply 03-04-2004, Started By Rosalie
5 Replies, Last Reply 01-18-2004, Started By junie_seven
4 Replies, Last Reply 11-23-2002, Started By Rosalie
5 Replies, Last Reply 10-08-2001, Started By borderline
2 Replies, Last Reply 01-13-2001, Started By MarciaZ
12 Replies, Hysterectomy Recovery (post hysterectomy)
0 Reply, Dear Honey
4 Replies, Prayer Requests for Hyster Sisters
13 Replies, Prayer Requests for Hyster Sisters
0 Reply, Hysterectomy Recovery (post hysterectomy)
8 Replies, Hysterectomy Recovery (post hysterectomy)
63 Replies, Preparing for Hysterectomy (pre hysterectomy)
9 Replies, Pelvic Floor and Bladder Issues
6 Replies, Aching Hearts


Hysterectomy News

August 15,2020


HysterSisters Takes On Partner To Manage Continued Growth And Longevity
I have news that is wonderful and exciting! This week’s migration wasn’t a typical migration - from one set ... News Archive


Calendar - Hysterectomies - Birthdays

Request Information

I am a HysterSister


Featured Story - All Stories - Share Yours


Your Hysterectomy Date

CUSTOMIZE Your Browsing  

$vbulletin->featuredvideos is not an array!