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Unread 07-20-2003, 02:21 PM
Embarrassing Questions about Bladder


I had a lavh w/bso on May 19 during the surgery the doctor's assistant snag my bladder with the retractor and tore a large hole through both layes of my bladder. They didn't realize they did it and sent me to recovery, only to have me start to bleed out. They opened me back up and it took about 5 hours to repair it. The doctor took my cath out in only 7 days. I have been having recurring uti's since. I have constant urge to urinate but no leaking. The embarrassing question is when I have sex with dh I feel like I am going to urinate on him. This horrible and I am wondering if anybody has had this problem before? I will be seeing a urologist this week for the first time. My doctor keeps telling me it is nothing to worry about. She said the bladder heals fast and yet in the next sentence she tells me not to let my bladder get full. Any advice would be appreciated. It is only here that you can post such a question. Thanks!!
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Unread 07-20-2003, 05:17 PM


I am sorry to hear your story, sounds terrible, but I can somewhat empathize with you. My dr. "kinked" my urethral tube leading from the kidneys to the bladder on my right side and I woke up with a urethral stent. Maybe they put one in you?!:confuse: Because that is exactly what I felt like with the stent in-- there was never any relief, you always felt full and urinating was painful! I had the thing in me 12 days, and when they took it out last week, I couldn't believe my eyes-- it was HUGE! I go tomorrow to have myself exrayed while liquid goes thru me to see if all is working right, but I don't feel it is, I can't seem to empty my bladder with one sitting, plus I have a delightful yeast infection! Hope all will go well with you, just wanted you to know I feel for ya sis!
Unread 07-20-2003, 09:25 PM
Embarrassing Questions about Bladder

((((Carey))))) I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time since your hyst. I'm happy that you're seeing your doctor next.... I know that this is not something that we can easily discuss, but be sure to mention the part regarding feeling like urinating during sex: it could an indication of a fistula or some other condition that needs to be addressed.

Sending tons of s your way. Pleas elet us know how you're doing.
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Unread 07-21-2003, 01:23 PM
Embarrassing Questions about Bladder

Carey, I know exactly what your are going through!! I had surgery 7-7-03 and My Dr cut my bladder, had to have blood transfusions, got pelvic infections, pneumonia, you name it. The cat is still in, he called in a bladder specialist and he suggested keeping it in at least 3 weeks. That's where I am now. He will run the dye in about a week to see if everything is going good and then maybe he will take it out. I hope your Dr. didn't take yours out too soon, Smart thing going to see an urologist, hope everything goes good!
Does it hurt to go to the bathroom? Was it hard to train your bladder? I am worried about the sex issue too.

Keep me posted on what the DR. tells you.

Good luck and my prayers are with you!!
Unread 07-27-2003, 07:46 AM
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Sorry it took so long to update. My daughter has been sick and we have been busy taking her to specialists. Just found out she had something called periodic fever syndrome. She runs fevers of 104 and 105 every 3 weeks for no reason. Doctor says she will have this for atleast the next 4-5 years. I did get to go to my urologist appointment in between hers. Didn't get many answers just said I need more tests to find the problem. I have to have the ivp dye and a cystogram done. I was hoping after the hysterectomy I would be free from seeing doctors for a while. Oh well I have been wrong before.

apolicemanswife I did not have a lot of problems training my bladder after the cath was out. But it does still sting occasionally when I go to the bathroom and I have to go a lot. I do not have an infection this go around. I just hope these tests can tell us something. Good luck with your bladder. I pray you will not have any problems when they take it out. It sounds like your doctor is doing the right thing by leaving it in and letting your bladder rest.

thanks again for all the support everyone!
Unread 07-27-2003, 08:20 AM

I am so sorry to hear what you have gone thru. I had a hysterectomy on 2-28-03 and a week later with having thrush in my mouth and running a high fever and terrible back pain they put me back in the hospital and found the dr "kink" my ureter on my left side. I have a nephrostomy tube in my back which is connected to a drainage bag. I wore a stent for 10 weeks and had several dye tests and the "kink" is still there. I am scheduled for major surgery aug 21st and the surgery is called reimplantation of the ureter. They cut out the bad part and reimplant and stretch it into a different part of my bladder. I really dont think you will urinate on him. I have the same feeling during sex and its never happened. Hey if it does then tell the man its too soon and he just needs to wait until your fixed. Today is my 18th wedding anniversary and I feel terrible. The back pain never goes away. hang in their girl and I feel terrible for what you have gone thru. Did any of your dr';s apologize for what they have done to us? I tell you mine has not once said I am sorry. I am now seeing a urologist and he is great. I only worry about the addiction to the pain meds. I have been on them 5 months now. I am just glad in your case that they found the problem right away and you didnt have to go home like i did, they told me a few more hours and I would have been a goner. hugs to you all

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Unread 07-27-2003, 10:03 AM
Embarrassing Questions about Bladder

Hi Carey,

I am glad they are going to do further testing. I believe the bladder is a great healing organ but I know only too well that sometimes they don't heal. I have a fistula but now have my bladder diverted to a urostomy. When I started on this road "statistics" led me to believe I would have surgery & be healed even though dr's kept reminding me of my pathology. Now after 2 unsuccessful bladder repairs I have learned that it is all too common for the bladder not to heal. I laugh every time I hear someone quote statitics. Where do they come up with those?

Good Luck,
Unread 07-27-2003, 11:28 AM
Embarrassing Questions about Bladder

My doctor never apologized to me. As a matter of fact they said that it was my fault. I am a vegetarian and she said it was because of that. She said I didn't eat enough protein so it led my bladder to tear and bleed. The funny thing is my blood work shows that my protein levels are normal. She also knew that I was a vegetarian before the surgery and never told me that was a risk. When I went to the urologist he said that it was not a factor and that it was just their error. I can not believe how common this injury is. Maybe if we all started holding them responsible they would start being more careful. Of course, that is probably just wishful thinking. My prayers are with all of you that share in this problem.
Unread 07-27-2003, 03:17 PM
Embarrassing Questions about Bladder


I can feel for you in so many ways. First of all, I am one week post-op from fistula repair surgery (whole in the bladder). Seeing a urologist is a good thing. And with regards to my doc apologizing - he actually did. He has apologized over and over. He has been involved in getting me in the right hands to getting me repaired. So far, I am doing pretty well. I overdid it yesterday, so I've been in bed pretty much all day today. But overall so far so good.

Secondly, I too have a daughter diagnosed with PHAPA (periodic fevers). Feel free to PM me or e-mail me. We can talk.

Take care and let us know how your appointment goes and how your daughter is! You two are in my prayers.
Unread 07-27-2003, 05:13 PM
Embarrassing Questions about Bladder

Hi Carey,

If you are a vegetarian I am sure you are healthier then most. It is not your fault. My dr did not have to apologize to me because it wasn't his fault. He saved my life. He moved his practice from NY & I went to him for a second opinion, 2 years too late. The hospital has suspended his hospital priviledges to make it look like his fault. They have ruined he & his wife's practice. They chose to back my dr that called me a hypochondriac. They are going down though & we will have the last laugh. I would imagine that your healthy lifestyle will help a great deal in your healing. As far as your dr apologizing, don't hold your breath because that would be an admission of guilt. I feel like I am one of the lucky ones because I am alive. 1 other of her patients have died & 2 others with advanced cancer.

God Bless,

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