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Unread 09-26-2003, 12:25 PM

First off wanted to say "THANK YOU for allowing me to become one of your members. My sister joann told me about this web site and that I might be able to get answers to the questions that i have regarding the big HYST that i am having on11/04/2003/.....HHHHEEELLLPP ME!!!! not sure what i should be doing to prepare for this. I know the only thing im feeling right now is fear and sadness, not sure what I should be feeling really??. Can anyone tell me what to do to prepare for this and keep my sanity until then ???
any response is greatly appreicated...
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Unread 09-26-2003, 12:31 PM

First, fear is perfectly normal - everyone has it to some degree before surgery.

Make sure you have done all of your homework and you are comfotable with both your doctor and your decision to have the surgery. That doesn't mean you need to be happy about it, but you do need to accept that this is what you need to do to get on with your life.

Then, if you have small children, try to line up some help with them for a few weeks, you will need it.

Look around this site, there is a vast amount of information from what to take with you to the hospital or what to do when you get home if you are feeling bored.

Please ask questions, vent, whatever you need to do. You will find an amazing amount of support and information and some wonderful people here at Hystersisters.

Hang in there - all will be well.

Unread 09-26-2003, 04:23 PM

Welcome to Hystersisters

Don't worry your feelings are normal.

Do be sure to listen to the advice of lining up support .... even if you don't have small kids you will need it.

Also, find out about insurances and see if you need to bank any blood before your surgery (not everyone needs to so ask).

I also made sure I had advance directives done and that any little extra shopping needed was done.

I go in for a TVH on October 31st and I've been all ready to go for a week or so now. I just have to go in and bank blood.

Oh one more thing make a list of questions to ask your doc when you go for your surgery consult.

You will find great links here that give some good ideas and to questions to ask and how to prepare.

Hang in there


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Unread 09-26-2003, 06:08 PM

The best thing you have done is find this site.

Since learning I needed a LAVH this site has been a godsend. It contains a wealth of support and information. So read, read, read, post, read, ask question, read, read etc.

And be reassured that what you are feeling is normal.

s to you
Unread 09-26-2003, 06:12 PM

The best thing I can suggest is read everything on this website. Ask lots of questions. No topic is off limits, so go ahead and ask if you want an aswer. We are all here to help each other. I am now 16 months post op. Everything went smoothly. Although fear is normal, you can be assured that you are not alone. And, as hard as this is to believe, waiting will be the hardest part. So, while waiting, learn. Knowledge is power.

Unread 09-26-2003, 06:22 PM

s Yarrington, WELCOME

If being apprehensive were not normal than every single one of the Hyster Sisters is nuts.....and we can 't have that can we?

You are doing what you need to. Knowledge Is Power and until you have a Knowledge base to work from you can not be pro-active in your own medical care. So you are starting;

read the posts for the pre-ops. Read the articles. Then ask your questions. After you read all the posts for pre op from the last week you will see that absolutely nothing is sacred, and all is discussed. With varying degrees of delicacy.

Someone here will always be able to offer you the hugs you need, some helpful advice, or just just plain old encouragement.

I'm glad you made here in time.

Unread 09-26-2003, 08:15 PM

In addition to the wonderful suggestions above (gotta LOVE this group!!!), you may want to start thinking of freezing extra meals. Things that you really like! It would be pretty easy to start making 2 of a meal when you cook - eating one then and freezing the other for later on.

Hint: When people say "what can I do for you?" both now and in the days following your surgery, say "Thanks so much! You're such a wonderful cook, it would be awesome if you could drop dinner off some night." Of course, you change the wording to fit you and the person you're talking to.

I've been fortunate to have a friend offer to coordinate meals for me, and when others asked if they could do a meal or something, I thanked them and sent them to Mary. It has been awesome not to have to worry about meals! Many are doing 2-3 meals for my family since my recovery will be so long Meals are on the delivery slate for 5 weeks! Gotta love that!

It's not in my nature to ask for help, or to even accept it typically, but I've sucked it up this time and am so glad that I have. We've even made adjustments - I found that anything with tomato sauce was totally upsetting my stomach, so I gave her a call and Mary put the word out to have meals, when possible and not yet made/frozen, to not be tomato based Worked like a charm.

Don't hesitate to let folks help, usually they're sincere in making that offer!

Good luck w/ your planning - read and post often

Unread 09-26-2003, 08:18 PM

My TAH is a weeks from this Tuesday. I have been calm throughout most of the "waiting" period, but this last week is driving me crazy! Mentally, I understand why I am having my hyst; physically I am ready, but I am an emotional wreck right now. I want to cry; I want to scream; I want to hit something. My mind is discombobulated. I cannot think straight; I don't know what I am doing half the time. I am really down today.
Unread 09-26-2003, 08:37 PM


Welcome, you have found the best support system in the world! (I mean that literally)

My words of advice are to begin cleaning 1 room a week, go through those boxes sitting in your closet, clean out your dresser drawers, get the cobwebs out of the corners. It will help keep your mind off of the up coming surgery and by the time you have cleaned every room it will be time for your surgery and your house will be spotless. You don't want to be stuck in bed while a dust bunny terrorizes your mind!

Definatly listen to ElissaQuilts, she has a GREAT suggestion, I haven't been accepting offers, but I will now. I don't like to burden people, but they are offering...why not accept?!

I know exactly how you feel, I am due for a TAH/BSO Wed, Oct 1 and I was you a few days ago. I still have moments when I am surprise I still have hair!
Try to find things to occupy your mind and when you feel like crying, GO AHEAD and then head here and post. It's amazing how much better you will feel after you write it all down. But most of all take care of yourself and do things that relax you!

Take care and god bless to you both!
Unread 09-27-2003, 01:13 AM

Hi, I had my TAH (kept ovaries) on Sept 5th. I was so much like you. When I booked my surgery I had to sit down because I thought I was going to pass out. Next, I thought, okay...what do I need to get done. The most important things I did were...

- Read everything I could on this site and posted questions on things I couldn't find.
- Made lists. A list of what to bring to the hospital, questions for the GYN and A Man, what did I need to know about insurance, what I wanted to get done at work before I left, things to have ready at home before I went to the castle, things I wanted to tell my kids and DH, things to do to keep from going stir crazy after the surgery (i.e. sort pictures, movies I wanted to see etc). A list of email addresses and phone #'s to have handy or give to DH to let people know how I was doing.
- THE MOST HELPFUL THING - I took an eye mask and ear plugs to the hospital. It is always too light and loud at hospitals to sleep. It I had to leave everything else at home I would have as long as I could have taken those 2 things.

The one thing I didn't do that I should have was let people know that I was afraid and wanted help before and after.

Please PM me if I can help. I have had some very nice people help me along and would like to return the favour.


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