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How do you deal with the emotional toll caused by complications? How do you deal with the emotional toll caused by complications?

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Unread 11-09-2003, 08:01 AM
I regress

Even though i have a really high IQ, i'm emotionally about 14, so i don't cope very well with all this stress. i've been very *****y, negative, irritated, etc etc . My poor DH wants to know if they can put the uterus back in.

I get frustrated thinking that no one really understands how scary this all is. I do appreciate my DH's usual approach which he calls "test pilot" mode: your jet is going down in flames and you don't have time panic; just deal with the criisis.

But i still need emotionall support or expression or something. I 'm somewhat of a Dr. Spock , i suppose, throughout this whole 4 month, i've only cried once, when i was in the ER with the ileus.

I've been shopping as emotional release, and unfortunately eating very bad foods and gained 10lbs. Not a very adult way to deal (see first sentence in post :-)

Well, i think i'll go off and suck my thumb now.

Fluffy Lemur
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Unread 11-09-2003, 08:41 AM
How do you deal with the emotional toll caused by complications?

Your seeing on your screen what has helped me thru these last 4 yrs of pain, complications, surgeries, more pain, dashed hopes for answers & relief & the list goes on
My fellow Road Travelers have enabled me to keep getting up after being knocked back down numerous times by multiple new conditions, symptoms & numerous treatments that sometimes left me in worse condition. Have you ever considered finding/consulting w/ a Therapist? Chronic Pain carries a heavy toll not only physicaly but emotionaly too Having to awake each day, not knowing how bad the pain will be or if it will even allow you to get out of the bed is a heavy burden to bear. One not easily undertaken alone. Having a *support system* in which mine consists of my family & ((Sisters)), Pain Mgmt Drs, PCP & Therapist can make all the difference in the world. First off tho ((Rita)) your Dr(s) need to set a plan in motion to get your pain to a livable amount of anything else will help if you cant see beyond the pain. Researchers have found that severe pain, left untreated, can bring upon a whole other set of physical problems as well :-( You need relief!
Here is some info that has helped me understand Chronic pain better so you can hopefully take steps w/ the help of your Drs, to try & help:

What You Don't Know Can Hurt You: Knowledge Is Power In A Doctor/Patient relationship: The International Pelvic Pain Society (IPPS):

Creating a New World of Understanding Concerning Chronic Pain Management :

Take Charge - The Five Cardinal Steps:

Coping w/ Pain that wont go away~Invisible Disabilities:

Pain Mgmt Info:

Hold onto *Hope* ((Rita)) Hope that somehow, someday, someone will find some answers & relief to our pain!!
It is something that can never be taken away from you

Good Luck & pls know you have many, many ((Sisters)) here for you...when things get bad lean on matter where you are, what your doing we're just a mouse click away
Unread 11-09-2003, 12:36 PM
How do you deal with the emotional toll caused by complications?

I am so sorry that you are in pain and have found yourself on this Road. I will be honest and say that it is not an easy place to be. I have run the gamut of emotions myself. First and foremost it is OKAY to cry. There have been times where my dh would see me and ask "what's wrong?" That is all it took for the water works to start. You know what, the crying really does help release pent up emotions.

Try not to give up hope Rita. Yes, the Road can sometimes take some twists and turns and can be a gradual process, but the next you open may be the door to answers.

Always remember you have friends here who care and can understand what you are going thru. We are here when you need us, the is always on. Big s from sisters have helped me immensley.
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Unread 11-09-2003, 04:07 PM
Thank you ladies!

You all are so awesome! I read each and every word and then went back and read them again (and checked out the links provided...thank you!).

Saturday I had a pain free day. I enjoyed it and just took it as my day off...I enjoyed a big breakfast and a good dinner and even some homebaked cookies while we watched "Finding Nemo" for the first time on DVD.

Today the pain is creeping back...but I had a day off and I will keep hope in my heart for tomorrow.

Thank you sisters...your support is so appreciated!

Unread 11-09-2003, 08:12 PM
How do you deal with the emotional toll caused by complications?

Dear (((Rita))))

Sorry I have been away and missed your post early on.

All I can tell you is that for me it has been a matter of choosing not to let my problems defeat me or my attitude. It hasn't always been easy and sometimes (like this weekend) the pain is so bad that all I can do is lay in bed and take lots of pain meds because it is so overwhelming.... but as soon as I am able I try to pick myself back up and get on with things....

I don't know if that is helpful for you .... I am glad you had a pain free day.... hopefully it will stay that way a few more days.


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