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It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down? It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

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Unread 11-19-2003, 11:58 AM
It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

Maybe I shouldn't be posting here - but I need some support.
My doctor just called and told me my biopsy showed no uterine cancer - yet I feel like crying. I realize that is an inappropriate reaction and one that most reading this thread would give anything to have. What's wrong with me?

Maybe I'm crashing from a week (post biopsy) of worrying, or maybe I was just hoping for an answer to the cause of my heavy bleeding. I don't know, but and I feel so ungrateful, and maybe even unworthy.

Has anyone else felt this way? - or am I weird?
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Unread 11-19-2003, 12:11 PM
It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

jeaniemarie ~ please do not be so hard on have been riding the emotional rollercoaster and I think it's OK to cry! You still need to find out why you're bleeding so much and the stress of waiting for pathology reports is the hardest. When my surgeon gave me my results, it was good news and I cried too.

Hang in there!
Unread 11-19-2003, 12:18 PM
It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

Thanks for the encouraging words. I really needed to hear them. My Husband is away and he just called and he seemed to understand too.
It is certainly not that you wish for cancer - just an answer...
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Unread 11-19-2003, 01:55 PM
It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

OMG!! I feel the same way and was too embarrassed to tell anyone! I just can't shake the feeling. I was so prepared for the worse, that I just can't seem to get past the fact that I don't have cancer and should be relieved.
Unread 11-19-2003, 02:56 PM

I think it's a perfectly normal reaction. You've had a rough time this last week waiting and worrying and I think we all mentally prepare for the worst even while we hope for the best. When you get the news it's OK, it's relief and all the tension comes together and you cry. You're very normal. And..CONGRATULATIONS! Ellen
Unread 11-19-2003, 03:06 PM
It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

First of all..Congratulations on a non cancerous diagnosis.

Secondly, cry those tears of joy all you want!! You have just come down from and emotional high.

Congrats again.

Unread 11-19-2003, 04:13 PM
It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

Great news!! And totally normal reaction.
The waiting alone is enough to frazzle anyone. Also, your trying to figure out what's going on and you want some answers.
Unread 11-19-2003, 05:34 PM
It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

Jeanniemarie, I've never had an undiagnosed condition. I don't know what that's like. But a year ago tomorrow, I did get a diagnosis of cancer. Be grateful it is not cancer.

Cry. I think it's mostly that the worry and stress of waiting for the biopsy report is over. It's relief.

Mary D.
Unread 11-19-2003, 05:41 PM
It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

I definitely went through this with my surgery; it looked pre-op as though I had "significant" ovarian CA; the biopsies, however, came back negative.

You're certainly due for a let-down; not only wasn't it cancer (which of course is a good thing) but you still don't have the answers you are looking for. Has your doctor discussed the possibility of adenomyosis with you? It's difficult to diagnose with biopsy; it's where the endometrial tissue is infiltrating the uterine wall; it can be "random" and biopsy can miss it completely. In fact, only MRI is really sensitive to diagnose it, and even that's not all that reliable. Often it's not diagnosed until after surgery, when pathology "discovers" it.

It's all too easy, once cancer has been ruled out, to drop the whole diagnostic process, figuring that if it's not cancer, then it's "OK". But keep looking for those answers, OK?

Unread 11-19-2003, 06:38 PM
It's not cancer. Why do I feel let down?

I understand completely. WHen I was diagnosed, after the initial shock and tears I was relieved because it meant the gut feeling I had that something was wrong was correct, even though I was asymptomatic.
I think your tears are a combination of relief and disappointment that you don't have answers for your problem. Keep bugging your Dr so you can get some answers and some help for the bleeding.
I am happy you don't have cancer.

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