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Unread 01-01-2004, 01:30 PM
Scared to Death and Surgery in 18 Days

Hi! I'm new to this place and I was hoping some one or any one can ease my fear. The end of October I was found to have a polyp in my uterus I had surgery on the 21st of November and instead of one polyp it was a large cluster of polyps. My doctor didn't want to spoil my Thanksgiving and I was due to go back in for a check-up on the 4 of December. That is when I found out that I had Uterine cancer. I wished I had taken someone else with me because I really asked some dump questions. One was if I could wait until after the holidays to have surgery again. He told me yes. But people I talk to say that is a good sign because if it was really bad he wouldn't have waited. He also told me it was curable and to make sure I stuck that in the back of my mind. But the thing I can't get past is that I just lost my oldest brother last April to cancer. His was operated on in 2001 and it was in his lung. They thought they got it all but it came back on him in 2002. It was in his glands above his kidneys. He was only given 6Months to three years to live. I found that out at my Mom's funeral in September of 2002. he past away seven months to day of my mom. I have another brother that beat lymphfoma cancer and is still living. I'm so scared and have no place to turn. HELP!
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Unread 01-01-2004, 02:09 PM
Scared to Death and Surgery in 18 Days

Dear Angeleyes,

I am so sorry you have had such terrible news, and anything you could say at that point would be very understandable.

You will find many wonderful women on this website wanting to help you.

Yes, uterine cancer can be one of the most curable cancers.

Unread 01-01-2004, 03:50 PM
Hi Angeleyes

I have another gyn. cancer so can't be much direct help with uterine cancer. I know we have others here with uterine. Of course you're scared--we all were when we found out and had our surgery. That initial shock takes a while to wear itself off. One suggestion I have is that you also look at or post on the pre-op board. Everyone there has questions and there are lot of good answers there. But be here often too--we know the shock, we know the waiting, we know the surgery questions, and we know a lot of cancer information too. Ellen
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Unread 01-01-2004, 04:33 PM
Scared to Death and Surgery in 18 Days

Hello there angeleyes,

I can relate about being scared. I do not have cancer but I am very scared about my surgery. I am only 24 and I have 1 son. I always wanted another child but now will not be able to. But that is really ok because I have lived with the symptoms for almost 3 years and I am ready to improve my quality of life. I Hope things go well for you please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.

Unread 01-01-2004, 05:37 PM
Scared to Death and Surgery in 18 Days

Dear Angeleyes,

I'm sorry about your diagnosis of uterine cancer, but it's one of those "good news/bad news" things. The bad news, of course, is that it's cancer. That is always a scary thing and potentially life-threatening thing. But the good news is that uterine cancer, caught early, can be very curable. I had stage 1B endometrial cancer (that's the uterine lining) in February 2000, had a complete hysterectomy with removal of ovaries and tubes, and have been fine ever since. And there are many women on this site who have been through the same diagnosis and are now cancer free and feeling great. There's another thread in this forum, with the title "Your age when diagnosed with endo cancer?", or something like that, and in that thread you'll see how many of us have survived this cancer and thrived!

I can't tell you not to be afraid (I was terrified!) but I can tell you to do lots of reading on this site and elsewhere, ask your doctor all kinds of questions (remember, he's a contractor and you are paying him!) and keep us informed as things progress.

When will you surgery be? We'll be here to support you!

Unread 01-01-2004, 05:43 PM
Scared to Death and Surgery in 18 Days

s Angeleyes, I know it is very difficult at this time, but please keep in mind that uterine cancer found early is very curable and often the surgery itself is the cure. Like your friends, I would say it was a good sign that your doctor said you could wait until after the holidays for the surgery since he must think any cancer is in an early stage.
I was dxed with probably uterine cancer after a D&C. During the surgery, my gyn assisted by a gyn/onc, in fact found early stage uterine cancer. Given the stage and other medical factors, I did not need any further treatment (radiation or chemo); as a precaution I will have to go for checkups every 3 months for a couple years. You should also know that your lymph nodes may be sampled to ensure that the cancer did not spread. BTW, if your current doctor is not a gyn/onc you may want to consult with one as they are the specialist in this area.
I too was very scared when I learned I probably had cancer, moreover the surgery would be the first operation for me with the exception of the D&C procedure. For me it was very important to have full confidence in my doctors and fortunately this proved to be the case. Turning to the Lord in prayer also helped me enormously. I will keep you in my :ers. peggiesue
Unread 01-01-2004, 06:01 PM
Scared to Death and Surgery in 18 Days

We all have fear. I still struggle with it periodically.

But I believe the most important thing any of us can do is get rid of the fear and prepare to FIGHT. Keeping a positive mental outlook, and refusing to give up, is important.

There is a lot you can do outside of what traditional medicine can offer. Changes in diet, lifestyle, exercise patterns, and mind power (meditation, visualization) can all help. Given your family history, you might want to spend some time researching some of the alternatives that can complement your traditional treatment. Consulting with a nutritionist who has dealt with cancer patients before will also be very helpful. I have been very grateful for what I've learned from the two nutritionists that I've been working with.

Surgery is scary and it's OK to cry. But . . . do not give up, and do not give in to fear or despair. We're all pulling for you! And it's great news that you have something so curable!

Unread 01-01-2004, 07:55 PM
Scared to Death and Surgery in 18 Days

s Angeleyes

I just wanted to support Peggiesue's excellent advice.
Gyn oncology surgeons are the experts with diagnosing and treating gyn cancers. I highly recommend that you consult with one. Best wishes.

Unread 01-02-2004, 08:08 AM
Scared to Death and Surgery in 18 Days

Welcome, Angeleyes--

I must agree with the others before me on the importance of having your surgery performed by a gynecologic oncologist, who are the experts in women's gynecologic cancers and pre-cancerous conditions. If you are not already under the care of a gyn-onc, I would strongly recommend that you run--don't walk--to an experienced gyn-onc for a consult and then have him/her perform your surgery.

I am a 4 1/2 year endometrial cancer survivor and despite the fact that my endometrial cancer was more advanced at diagnosis than a number of the other women on this board, I am doing great today! I believe I owe my excellent health in large part to my highly-skilled and experienced gyn-onc, who knew exactly what needed to be done to ensure that I had the best cancer surgery outcome humanly possible.

Endometrial cancer can be cured in many cases, provided that it is timely diagnosed and effectively treated. You found the right place, Angeleyes. We'll get you through it!

Best wishes.

Unread 01-02-2004, 05:04 PM
Scared to Death and Surgery in 18 Days

Hi Angeleyes - I am 3 1/2 months post op for endometrial cancer and I was terrified too. The worst part was waiting for the surgery. Endo cancer is very often discovered in the early treatable stages.
Hang in there - I will keep you in my thoughts. It's OK to be scared - just know we are here to support you.

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