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My GYN wont see me no more... My GYN wont see me no more...

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Unread 01-03-2004, 12:32 PM
My GYN wont see me no more...

Laides I need your support and help on this... Please!

Let me give a little background before you read my problem:

In and out of the hospital and bleeding for a year and half. This went on through 2002-2003.

Lap - 12/94 - Endo
Lap - 8/27/00 - Tubial
Lap - 1/10/03 - scar tissue
D&C - 3/28/03
Hyst - 5/27/03 - kept left tube & ovary

I went to my GYN on Tuesday becuase two weeks ago I was in the ER for pelvic pain. It felt like the worse bladder or UTI I have ever had in my life. They found no infection and even did a cat scan. So the er doctors told me to follow up with my regular physican and my GYN. That is exactly what I did.

When she walked in the first thing she said was "Kimbereley I can't see you no more. There is nothing I can do for you. I explained what I was doing here. And just following the other doctors advice. But she told me in a harsh rude way. You had a hysterectomy I took all of your organs out there is nothing there for you to have pain. Are you hurting now, and when you after you use the bathroom. I said yes. Then you need to go see or get another urologist. I told her I go see a Kidney specialist on the 14th she said they wont be able to help you".

I said with the er doctor thought it might be endo, scar tissue, or
adhesions. Since I had endo and scar tissue before. She said there is nothing left in your body. I said don't I still have my left tube and ovary. She said very little tube and your ovary is on your tissue wall. So that won't cause your pains. But your hysterectomy was clean nothing was there. It was a very fast clean procedure. The er doctor thought maybe scar tissue or something could be irrating my bladder and that could be causing my pains. Again she said I was clean...

I told her I had a lap done 1/10/03, D&C 3/28/03 then hysterectomy 5/27/03 of course I am going to be clean.

Then one night laying on my stomach while sleeping I stretched and felt something inside my stomach/pelviv area on my right side rip. It hurt so bad.

She said well if you have money which you don't I could recommend you to this one doctor. But all I can do for you is recommend you for a second opinion. Because I wont go back inside and create more scar tissue. I can't see you no more there is nothing more I can do for you. And she got paged and left.

I really don't know what to do or think. I left there crying that is
all I know. I could really use some help here.
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Unread 01-03-2004, 12:44 PM
how rude

Honey, RUN dont to a new doctor. That is what I think of the situation. I know that I currently have some adhesions going on in the pelvic area...I know the pain too well. My doctor listens to me and tries to help..she is an OBGYN. That being said get yourself to someone who cares! Good Luck! Jana
Unread 01-03-2004, 01:21 PM
My GYN wont see me no more...

If this had happened to me I would ask my GP to refer me another specialist. I don't know if you live in a small town or large city but if you have access to another surgeon you are entitled to another opinion.
If your gyno has turned you away then maybe you are better off without his/her help - perhaps you need one with more experience.
Good luck!
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Unread 01-03-2004, 01:25 PM
My GYN wont see me no more...

I guess i would just keep seeing doctor's. hard to say what's going on. you know, what the doctor was thinking and so forth. but seriously, if you are in pain i would continue to pursue it until you're satisfied.

sorry i cant offer a better suggestion.
Unread 01-03-2004, 02:33 PM
My GYN wont see me no more...

Dear Kimbereley,
There is no way I could see a doctor who didn't want to see me. If she will refer you to another doctor for a second opinion (I would assume you are covered by an insurance plan that accommodates this), I would definitely do this. Perhaps you want to try a male gynecologist this time as a comparison? I did this when I was pregnant. The female obstetrician had no compassion or sympathy for my discomfort, and I didn't want her delivering me. I asked for another doctor, preferably a male, and my husband and I absolutely loved him! Worth a try. Good luck.
Sheree, Tarzana, CA
Unread 01-03-2004, 03:06 PM
My GYN wont see me no more...

Kimberly, I've also had problems with female gynecologists who lacked empathy and compassion. I've received far more compassion and caring from male gynecologists. I'm sure there are some empathetic female GYN's, but I haven't met any.

Think twice, before seeing a doctor who was recommended by your current doctor. Doctors tend to recommend doctors who agree with them on most subjects. I'd find a new GYN by asking friends, coworkers, or other women whose opinion you respect, consulting an Ask a Nurse program, which many hospitals offer, or by getting a referral from your internal medicine or family practice doctor, as another poster suggested. You will want a doctor whose opinion will be completely independent from your current GYN's opinion.

Good luck to you, and best wishes.

Unread 01-03-2004, 03:23 PM
My GYN wont see me no more...

Definitely find another doctor. My first doctor really left me a mess and I was convinced for 3&1/2 years that it was all in my head, not that it means anything, but she was female. Anyways, I finally went to another doctor who was in a totally different city and he went in and found tons wrong with me. I'm on my 8th week of recovery and am feeling much better. Do not let yourself think it's all in your head. Good luck to you.
Unread 01-03-2004, 03:26 PM
My GYN wont see me no more...

I agree with Helen. When I had a problem trusting the gyn I was seeing he referred me to a gyn/onc. I didn't feel comfortable seeing this woman, since she was referred to me by the man I didn't trust/like. I talked to friends/co-workers and was referred to a great gynocologist who I absolutely love. He's caring, compassionate and wasted no time in taking care of my problems. I'd trust him with my life, and actually that's exactly what I did do.

Talk to friends, even your GP and get to see another doctor of your choosing. This doctor sounds cold hearted and careless, you need someone who will listen and help you get through whatever problems you're having.

Best of luck,
Mary Ellen
Unread 01-03-2004, 04:31 PM
I had the same problem...

My doctor was the same way, but he acted that way much sooner than yours did. Immediately after surgery I had bowel obstruction complications and he didn't even show up when I stayed 3 more days in the hospital. He showed up just before I was released. His follow-up with my severe pain has been non-existent. I've moved on to other doctors.

Please, just move on to a different doctor. This one is ignoring your symptoms. If you are in pain then find someone to help you diagnos and deal with the pain. It isn't the first time a doctor has had their own reasons for dismissing someone...and they are just they've got their own psychological issues causing them to react the way they do.

Find another doctor's perfectly normal for you to want help. You deserve help.

Unread 01-03-2004, 05:19 PM
My GYN wont see me no more...

For a young person you have had a very busy gyn history, especially in the last year. You do not say what diagnosis caused you to need a hyster. last May, 2003???
But it does sound like your Gyn feels that she has no other solutions for you. You may need to start at ground level with a full physical work up and then maybe be referred to a different type of specialist/ or surgeon.
You definitely need an opinion from a Dr. not associated with her in anyway.
Ask friends/family/co-workers who have connections with nurses who actually work in the hospital with your local gyn's and family practice docs...these nurses will know which docs have the best track records and reputations. They will also know about the doc you have been seeing in the past.

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